She shows she is interested calls me alot and we work together. Spoke on the phone for nearly 2 months and have had a few dates were we made out. The first week it was my birthday and she came around and got me a card even though she didn't have too. It was sweet. She has flaked four dates with me and seems reluctant.

She also told me last night how her old manager fromher work likes her alot and calls her and knows her for 4 years. I told her you keep going on about guys and she said she doesn't like him that way but she has been out with him and other people before and he wants to see her again.

We spent last week playing call of duty, PS3 online. She said to me she would come and see me for a lil bit but when I contacted her she ended up going home playing online with me and saying she was tired.

She keeps asking me to make sure we work on the same days, and offers me lifts, when I mention to do something outside she makes excuses. I asked her days in advance when she was free and she didn't really respond but said thursday maybe. I mentioned it today and she said she had plans to meet a friend for dinner and drinks.

The last week has been really weird because she has been abrupt like she wants to me stop asking. She called me just now to ask me if I would work the same days as her and said to me "you can get a lift...you if want" we nearly had an argument about something the other day(some guy asking if we were an item and she wants us to keep it quiet) so maybe that was why she was like that but how do I keep up our contact and not just become a work buddy. Should I still ask her out or wait for her? We get on really well.

Retreat and go cold. Don't be unfriendly but show increasing indifference to whether you see her and what you guys do. Essentially, prioritize everything else in your life to her without being a dick about it. If she comes back and does something nice, reward her with attention. If she doesn't, stay your course. If she confronts you, pretend you don't know what she's talking about. You're just doing your thing.

As for her talking about other guys hitting on her, ignore it. It's meant to get your attention and gauge your reaction. By not giving her either, you demonstrate a strong frame and you intrigue her.

Here's something I just posted on a related issue: -im-busy-working-excuse-vt89563.html?highlight=

I stopped reading at "she has flaked four dates"...

Then I just scratched my head and wondered why the fuck it progressed past one time....MAYBE two....before putting the kibosh on that shit.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Me too. i think the op is being toyed with by the girl.

my 2 cents. you care about this one too much, she's just like any other woman my dude. so definitely do what the other gentlemen said, 'ignore' her. ever heard of cat string theory? its where if a cat can't get the string or its right out of reach they want it so so so bad, and if they can have it, they get bored with it really quick. so ignore her until she talks to you and brings it up like, "hey we haven't really talked all that much lately" blah blah blah. when she says that you tell her you've been busy being THE MAN and tell her some stuff you've been doing that impressive. after that tell her that you're doing something and if she's down she can join you. but don't do something you think she would want to do, do wtf ever you wanna do homie. she wants to come along for the ride (pun intended) she's gotta work for it

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