Hello everyone,

Lately, I've been seeing this girl that I really like. I think she is also interested in me because of the fact that we made out and almost had sex the last few times we met. Anyhow, I realized that the PUA stuff helped me to get her but now, it is killing me. She wants me to be a total AFC. For example, she was sad because I almost never text her (I only do to set up dates) so she thinks I don't care about her. She wants me to basically text her good night and stuff every day...

As soon as I get a little bit cocky, she thinks I'm a total jerk. Seem like she wants me to be the kind/boring/romantic guy.

I know she's been hurt in the past so maybe that's why doesn't want a guy who know how to act with womens...

Also, my friend is friend with her so she told me that kind of stuff doesnt work on her and I need to give her attention and be kind, all that bullshit. Though, my friend also told the girl that I am quite good with women and that did turn her off...


Now, I'm wondering. Should I just play her game and be the AFC that she wants because I really like the girl or I should just stay cocky and not give her attention and most probably lose her?

Advices, please.

Be yourself. If she doesn't like that then GFTOW.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

For some reason, I know it's the right thing to do, but on the other hand. It's really hard to let her go without doing anything :S....

may be what you call "cocky" is actually being a jerk?...there is a thin line between two...and that line is whether she thinks you're jerk because of them or not. Simply try being nicer to her. No need to be somebody else, but rudeness, is a bad quality, which needs to be dealt with. I got similar problem btw...

To add on to what the guy above said. COCKY alone is terrible if you are failing with the FUNNY. This is one of the biggest sticking points I see in my lair mates... read writing comedy and watch a lot of stand up if you wanna pull off cocky/funny

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

I have dealt with, and am currently dealing with, one of these women. She's kind of a shy, nerdy type (sexy as hell), but she has never dated a guy with any self-confidence in her life. They have all been AFC's and many were total pricks. She freezes me out when I don't AFC'ish enough for her.

The problem is that she is locked into a pattern that she can't see and, therefore, can't change.

Seek AFC's > Make all her BF's AFC > Resent them for being AFC (no girl "truly" wants AFC) > fuck up relationship and move on to alpha male > repeat process

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

This is a no brainer. The game helped you to get the girl you like. Now you got the girl like. why do you need the game?! Don't change for her but there's no point (in my opinion) why you would need to be cocky to your own girl!

If you care about her, let her know. It's ok.

Jesus.

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Quit seeing things as 'game'. She's not playing you. People aren't out there to hurt you. Ask yourself, do you like her? Don't be afraid to show it. She obviously likes you - so start moving things forward - because to me it seems that you are the one playing games, not her.

haha This is the best. I had an hour long discussion last night about how 90% of the men I have met in the PUA world are so hopelessly out of touch with themselves that it makes my heart hurt. Do you care about her?

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

dude, if you already got her, just be yourself. You can be a "nice guy" once you get the girl. Girls like "jerks" at first, but once its at a more relationship level, you can do things like text her good night. Girls like it when guys do sweet things, just dont be a push over

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FAIL PROOF PICK UP LINE: excuse my, im sorry to bother you but my father beats me, can i have your number.

Okay, I think that I did not express myself very well. First of all, I would describe myself as an asshole, so texting her bullshit like good night would just not be me. It's really not my type to give more attention to one girl in specific and that's why it's so hard to do.

Also, I do think that she also play games with me. She is really good at seduction and nothing is certified that she is 100% into me. She told me plenty of times that she often goes and talk to guy just to get free drinks. Last time we we're in a club, I went to the bathroom... When I came back, there was about 5 guy around her, picking up on her (She was not doing anything, but not rejecting them aswell...).

HAHA, now I get it. I was in the same situation for the last month... RUN!!!! It's fun to be with girls like that for a while and it makes your game super sharp, but if it's gonna end anything like how mine is going then save yourself the pain in the ass. If you show even a hint of weakness she will rip that shit open and fist fuck it.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

This sounds like my ex-gf!

She always complained that I should text her more, and she told me like 300 times that she thought I didn't care about her.

But, I know that that's the reason why she stayed with me. Only problem was that she complained that much, that I broke up lol. Got sick of her complaining..

Just stay yourself. You lose confidence when you go all wussy.. And you'll get tired off that shit! And worse: She'll probably leave you for some other guy..

I hope I helped you out with this..

Thanks for the reply, benni. I did stop talk to her because it started to get on my nerves.

I lost a girl I liked, but at least I did not lose confidence. (Acting like a poser actually made me bad in the inside and I was starting to lose some confidence...)