Hey there,

I'm basically gonna lay the situation out as I see it and hope for some good solutions - I've been told by girls that I'm very handsome but I still never had a girlfriend in college because I wasn't very social within my friend groups. Sometimes I feel that girls don't go for me because they think I'm a player, or too mysterious (it was almost the opposite of pre-selection in college) or because (and this is where my inner game is affected) I'm only 5'6 (same as Neil Strauss). Whatever, the case, I know that many girls in college secretly liked me a lot, but felt (as did I) that I wasn't integrated enough within their friend groups for them or me to make a move. At the time, I also had never heard of pick-up.
My question is, how does my supposed good looks affect how I should play the game and how can I get over my inner game issues that are a result of my height? I honestly think, that if I had had a girlfriend or more positive experiences/validation from others (as opposed to just k-closes in clubs) in college, then I would be much more confident now. I don't know whether I'm wasting my good looks by worrying about my height or if how I'm acting is normal?

Any advise would be much appreciated.

Moody

I don't think you can be too mysterious. If your good looks are intimidating to girls, that can be a good thing. You can try to make the first move and hit on them and open up. Once they know you are a funny and chill guy, it'll dis arm them. Who cares if you are short. Don't even bring it up at all. The thing is, there will be girls that will only date tall guys. Nothing you can do about it, but if you don't let that affect you, there will be some girls that prefer tall guys and will still date you if you show the confidence. It's all about how you present yourself. Good looks help, but it's not everything. Just go out there and ask tons of girls out. Crash and burn a few times and you'll be better. There's no quick fix to inner game. The best advice is to go out and be more social.

good advice, thanks

any more thoughts ?

I was in a somewhat similar situation not too long ago. Quite attractive, but no game or initiative. After the fact, I've found out how many girls secretly liked me, but would never do a thing about it. Then, when I started PU, I just bought into the whole looks-don't-matter-philosophy without further thought. I would recommend the same approach to you: ignore your looks and your height, pretend they don't exist. Truth is, looks make gaming much easier, but you can't rely on them. Height is only an issue if you make it one. A buddy of mine is your height, has never heard of PU, and for 50 weeks of the year, he gets more pussy than I do. So clearly, height can't really be an issue.

Height doesn't matter bruh man only size does. Unless you're looking for a chick that's like 6foot and you want to be eye level w/ her then what does it matter.

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Back then they didnt want me, now im hot they're all on me

But do you think maybe ignoring your looks could backfire if you actually are pretty good looking ?

No that's exactly my point. If you are devlishly handsome and you keep that on your mind, you'll start relying on looks more, you'll incorporate them into your game. You may become lazy, passive in-set, or babble too much about appearances. If you ignore your looks and game like an uglo, you'll still have an easier time, but you'll build stronger game. Essentially, you want to learn to walk without the crutch, even if it'll always be there.

i've said it time and time again, good looks will only buy you time before a girl puts up her bitch shield. It is one of the many weapons in the PUA arsenal but alone cannot do all that much.

dx01993
PostPosted: Tue Mar 15, 2011 8:40 pm Post subject:
I don't think you can be too mysterious. If your good looks are intimidating to girls, that can be a good thing. You can try to make the first move and hit on them and open up. Once they know you are a funny and chill guy, it'll dis arm them.

Yeah I think this is the right attitude. I've found that if I throw in too many negs, then the girl thinks I'm arrogant very easily. However, if I just show humor and act chilled out, they think of me less as a player, which I've recently discovered is a not a good thing to be seen as. I think I heard something about this in a De angelo video where he discusses how to react when a girl already sees you as higher value.