I don't know if this is the right section to post it but it kind of is a sticking point.

So basically I have been an average guy that has had very little success with women in throughout life. I am engaged to be married to a girl this coming August that I am with, only because I feel I can do no better. My fiance is a nice person, but she has some rather large flaws.

Well about a year ago I was introduced to the game. Just recently, I worked up the courage to see if this stuff actually works. It really does work and is not just theory.

My problem is I am engaged to be married, yet I now feel like I can be successful with other women which is something I have always wanted in my life. I am so torn on this issue.

On the one hand, I have been with this woman now for several years. We have had an overall good relationship together. There are a lot of people now expecting us to go through with marriage. If I cancel out on not getting married, my reputation will be trashed and I will be a major outcast. Many people will probably reject me and I will feel crumbled. Along with that, I will be breaking this girls heart and don't want her committ suicide. We also have a several thousand dollars already invested in the wedding.

On the other hand, I was a suppressed AFC all my life and have loved women. When I was in my youth, I couldn't wait until I reached the age when I could be with women. Having very few women in my life throughout the years has really deprived me. I don't want to be some guy, some day in his fifties who has an affair due to not having been able to play the field back in his twenties(which is where I am now) and totally throwing my life away.

This is a very difficult situation I am in. What do you guys think the best course of action would be?

"never leave the one you love for the one you like. because the one you like will leave you for the one they love." - random quote i heard.

i have mixed emotions about this thread. but i do understand where you are coming from. but find it hard to advise you either way.

i have left a serious relationship to pursue other women. this was only a good decision for me because it turned out that my ex is LOCO.

only you can decide what you really want.

Hope you work it out man.

peace.

Ben

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Oh man, I was in exactly the same situation 3+ years ago. Back then I was in a relationship that lasted for almost 7 years, we liked each other very much, but I think we didn't love each other, it was a typical Relationship where both partners were just engaged because they thought it's the right thing to do, and because they were afraid to be single...

I ended our relationship, and decided that I don't want to be an AFC anymore. I didn't know anything about PUA back then, I only found the PUA community a few weeks ago. So I had to learn everything the hard way, and I still have to learn a lot, but it's much easier now with the help of this community

I can't help you with your decision, but I can tell you a few things that'll happen when you end your relationship:

- be prepared for a huge and hard cut in your life, I completely changed myself during the last 3 years, but it was very hard and frustrating sometimes. I even had to take a timeout from girls & pickup for several months at one time because I was suffering from too much stress.

- My sexlife definitely became better, better because I'm a man with a desperation to have sex with as many different girls as possible. But be prepared that you'll not have such a good emotional connection with these girls as in a relationship, that was one of the hard lessons I had to learned. Just Sex or a Sex-Relationship is most of the time not a replacement for a serious relationship.

If you're in any sort of doubt, you shouldn't marry her.

vampire said it best. and the fact that your questioning it means your not 100% committed. its not fair to her to be in a long term relationship with someone who doesnt really want to be in it.

To be honest, it sounds like the main reasons your staying in it, is for yourself, like your image, people not liking you. (besides you worrying about her mental health) and don't worry about the money in the wedding. everyone loses money..but think, is a couple thousand worth 50 years of unhappiness?