hey everybody
i m new here and this is my first thread so i hope i get some useful feedback what i could ve done better:)


so yesterday i went to my friend s houseparty . I was the dj for part of the time so i could play the music i wanted to:) so i had a lot of fun by dancing and chatting with my friends. So the social proof was build and i was kinda the centre of attention because my dancing skills are very good(or at least they seem to be so:D). So it was like..i danced for a short time then went to the notebook and did some other music and so on. SO i didn t dance all the time.So this cute brunett hitted on me:

Brunette:hey so why do you only dance for this short times? cause it really looks hot how you dance

Me: yeah..( i was kinda stunned..didn t expect this) cause i run the music here said with a huge smile and left to the notebook

So later on i danced with her and she seemed to have fun:) So i asked her for her name and what she does(yeah i know this is not an interview..but i was a little drunk so .. and my game is not so tight right now cause i just started to learn it:)
so she said that her name is mary and she s 21 years old and studies blablabla...

I said to her in a playfull way with a huge smile: oooh you re way too old( i m 20:D)
Her: ah you think you re the coolest guy here ,don t you?
Me: No i m not a player..i m not that kind of guy..you can trust me(this was a mistake right?)
Her: yeah i believe you...she said and just danced on.

so after half an hour i met her again and had a small talk. She said that she wanted to sit somewhere..i suggested the other room which wasn t so loud and where we could talk by our own..but she rejected and said she wants to stay here and just left our conversation...

so i messed up by negging her? or was it cause i said that i m not a player..what would you have done? and what could i ve said when she complimented me that i m a good dancer?..
so i hope my english is not that bad..i hope you can read it;)

hey guy.

i'm newly registered as well but have been gaming for a bit to know that you messed up during her 'ah you think you're so cool' test. been tested with this one myself quite a bit. the reply i usually use is something along the lines of, 'it is actually YOU who thinks that i'm cool!' at which point she smiles, cause you passed her test and she's happy about it. or another one is something along the lines of, 'baby, i don't think, it's a FACT!' obviously these must be said congruent with the playful alpha attitude.

another variation of the 'ah you think you're so cool test' is 'did you just make a move on me?' or 'are you hitting on me?" this is when you respond with a definite "YES, and you are loving every moment of it" or something along those lines. but you respond in alpha playful/unapologetic attitude!

also, don't suggest to take her to another room. just her by the hand and say 'come.' i would think that the reason she didn't want to go to another room with you is because you failed her initial test. but that's only my two cents.

hope this was helpful.

thank you number1sponsor:) and yes it was hopeful
at the moment she tested me..i didn t realise it was a test..but now as i think about it ..it s a shame that i didn t recognize it:D the next time i get tested this way i will answer what you wrote:) seems to be a very good and funny way!

i have a lack of practice...so that s probably why i responded the wrong way.
any suggestions how i could neg her about the : it looks hot how you dance?
what do you think about this?

: so you better try hard when you dance next to me?

or shouldn t i neg because she obviously showed interested which i have to reward?

'it looks hot how you dance' ... this is a comment that you might not get for awhile now, but in that case i think it would be appropriate to tease her a bit with something like, "what?! did you just say you're getting hot? baby, i'm not THAT easy! ...you're going to have to try harder than that..." and you could make a few ridiculous dance moves just for shits and giggles...she'll smile of course...and you'll be having a great time...