If you're not approaching .. you can't know which one is attracted to you and which is not .
Anyway I think you're suffering from anxiety and low self-esteem.
I saw this in one of "60years of challenge" ebooks but i forgot which one but it helped me a lot in my game and my life in general.
here's the theory: Every task you think you can't do it .. go and do it
By doing it you'll feel good and you'll gain more confidence.
Every task you do will be like a small step on the confidence ladder .
Im using this theory and its working for me ... Hope i helped you
