Ok this is basically the biggest and baddest sticking point I think I could ever have as it's effecting everything from getting my end away to having a future relationship, and I am seriously starting to think it might be terminal :'(

Basically, the more I like a girl... the less she likes me. AND, the more she likes me, the less I like her. It's like to opposite ends of a magnet never being able to meet.

This has been a problem since forever, in my younger year long before I even knew what PU stood for. Since learning some of the basics I've of course been 10x more successful... but despite this in that time since I found PU I haven't had a single seriously relationship. There were girls I really liked, and girls who really liked me, but never both at the same time, unless I had 2 or more girls going

Now maybe me loosing interest in the girls who like me is a bit of a tough one, but surely it shouldn't be so hard to get the girls I like to like me, shouldn't it? But for some reason I just can't. I always end up turning back to an AFC as soon as I start getting actual feelings for a girl.

Basically I want to meet her, and need to meet her to progress anything, so I need to call her and invite her to stuff or it'll will never go anywhere right? But the more I invite her out, the balance seems to tip and her attraction goes down, while mine continues to go up in frustration until the situation has snowballed into me being a total AFC.

I wish I could be more calculated and "fake it", something I've never been good at. Im the honest type and terrible at acting. But I know that in the situation when I'm not interested, at least some of them, the girls go wild! Had 1 or 2 practically stalking me, now how do I do this to the ones I actually like????? Any suggestions? articles I should read? What key point am I missing here cause its totally fucking up my life!

This has happened to me contantly.

I even wrote a post on in a while back.

It's like when I like a girl,I always end up friggin' it up.

I'v discover after reading many online-pick up article on it,that it come down to mind control.

The more you think about a specific girl and like her to death,it lessens the chance of actually getting her.

Maybe not in all cases,but this always happens to me.

It comes down to investments.

You invest thoughts,emotions,liking,want in any 1 girl,you will eventually go all out to get her.

I follow general rules on not calling girl contantly,but with girl I like,I may toss that rule out the window and re-call her like 10 times in a row(lol)!!

Which will kill any attraction she might've had for me.

Solution,stop showing so much interest in a particular girl.

It's just that simple but hard to do.

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Thanks for the reply, yeah its so simple yet so damn difficult.

One time I did kind of manage it, maybe wasnt SOO into her but held back and got her crawling all over me, then tried to slowly but surely increase my affection for her to move it onto something more than just causal sex and as soon as I did she slowly but surely lost interest! Before that she was calling me daily... like wtf??? I used to have no problems becoming serious with a girl but now its like... bla.

What kind of rules did you have or might be good for me to consider? That would definitely be a start.

Nothing special.

I just try best to not visualize myself with this hot girl,having kids and laying her(lol).

Whenever I really like a girl,I would go off in wonderland and visualize us living happily ever after.

That mentality would kill the vibe as I became AFC towards the girl.

So I just try best to not think that way by stopping myself when I go that far mentally.

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Yeah... I donno whats going on lately, my game as totally gone to shit.