Hey,

This will be a long post, but please read through.

Background

In September I met this HB9 through a friend of mine. I knew who this girl was before I met her and I was certain from the start that I wanted her to be mine (not just hit and run, I w-a-n-t-e-d her). Anyways, first two times I met her (at clubs) I did not talk too much to her. Some weeks later we met while being out again and we had a great conversation filled with laughters and so forth. I did not attempt to close her this night since I felt this girl was a keeper and she is also very selective when it comes to guys, so pushing it would not have been the right strategy (correct me if I am wrong). We met a couple of times in different clubs but we hadn't switched numbers until I one night told her she was "very interesting" and that "I would like to meet her sometime". She smiled, and we switched numbers.

Anyway, we had contact through the FB-chat and I suggested that we could go for a walk. We did so, and when we were outside her apartment she sat down on the ground and so did I and we kept on talking for about 20 minutes. She then invited me in and asked me if I wanted to watch a movie with her. I saw this as an IOI but I was at the same time pretty sure that nothing would happen this night and it didn't.

We stayed in touch and a while late she asked me for a walk again and after that walk she asked me if I wanted to join her to spend the evening at her friends' place (whom I knew all of them). I said "no thanks" and that I had other things I had to do. Did not want to seem to eager about spending time with her.

A couple of days later I sent her a text and asked her to dinner at my place sometime next week. She replied and said she was looking forward to it. Two days later we spoke on the FB-chat again and she said once again that she thought dinner was a good plan. We spoke on the phone for 20 minutes that following Tuesday and the conversation went really well. We decided Thursday would be our night for dinner.

The turn
I met her out at a club Wednesday. I knew she would be there and she knew I would be there. However, when I got there she was sitting with her friend (whom I know). I got up to them and started talking. The thing was that she now was like a different person. She seemed to be uncomfortable in my presence and that made me uncomfortable as well. Anyhow, I said I had to go talk to some friends after about 20 minutes of conversation and then I did not approach her again that night. I cannot find a reason why she would act differently and suddenly not seem interested.

The following day was the day for our dinner. I gave her a buzz and she answered but was just about to have a class so she said she would call me afterwards, which she did. She said that she would drop by my place to buy some hats from me as x-mas gifts for her brothers (I run a business, therefore the hats) and she also said that she would probably not be able to have the dinner tonight since she had to go to this dinner where she and a friend had to plan for work (I see it as kind of informal and some kind of reason to not have dinner with me). However she got to my place and we hanged out for about an hour. She was now very talkative compared to the previous night and we had a good conversation. However, there weren't too many IOIs, except that she stayed a lot longer than I thought she would and we had lots of laughters etc.

Where we are now
Our mutual friend were having a big party at her place this Friday. Again, we both knew the two of us would be there. I got to the party later than her and I saw her sitting with her friends (not in a good place to go and say hi). I decided to not seem to eager about her so I pretended I did not see her (no eye-contact between the two of us) and went to the kitchen and stood there the rest of the party. I was hoping she would come up to me, but she didn't. When I was about to leave the party she stood outside and I gave her a hug and then said my friends were waiting and left.

I have not met her since nor been in contact with her. I really want this HB9 and I have decided not to contact her, cause I don't want her to think I am all hers now.

What can I do about it? How come she suddenly changed her approach to me? Is she trying to play some game or is she not interested? What can I do to become more interesting and attracting to her?


I really appreciate all help and that you've acctually read this "novel" of mine haha.

i personally would have made a move the night she invited u in to watch a movie. if she is an hb9 she is used to guys hitting on her and wouldnt invite you in unless she was into it. she wanted you to make a move (even though she would never admit this now), you didnt and still havn't. hence her awkwardness towards you at times. how she feels about you now;

-your not interested in her?

-your a pussy?, 'i invited him in and he didnt even have the balls to kiss me'

-your in the friend zone or on the border of it.

what to do now?

-have you been escalating kino and DHV, showing pre-selection, teasing her? if you have then she may not have friend zoned you yet. if you havnt, do it. need help? ask me.

-arrange to see her, then lay off the facebook. run some of your strongest game, see the point above, another walk and then maybe invite her to yours for lunch/dinner when she is having a good time instead of inviting her to yours initially see? once you get her to yours escalate kino and go for broke. play with her hair and smell it then kiss her. (you have to be willing to lose this woman to ever have her.)

hope this helps

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