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This happened earlier this morning..
Me: Good morning, are you off today because Im enjoying mine right now
HB: No, I'm at work Enjoy your day!!
Me: Speaking of days, hows ur schedule looking this week.
HB: Working all week and weekend and it sucks ass!
Me: Do you take lunch at the same time everyday.
HB: I dont take lunch I usually just snak at my desk.
Me: Fuck that u coming to snack with me on Friday.
HB: Dude our office doesnt work like that. No one goes to lunch because things never stop here and we all just eat at our desk.
Me: Guess we both have a full plate this oncoming weekend, hows next week looking for ya.
All in all, this was an emotionless conversation no spiking to any degree.... at the same time, I need some1 to tell me where I went wrong and how to stop this trainwreck text game I have
Here's What i have learnt in field (if you can call it that) from texting.
(these don't apply if you're in some-what committed relationship with a girl)
1. Don't text in the morning, in telegraphs way to much interest. 11am onwards in usually a safe bet.
2. Don't start With Good Morning/Good Afternoon etc. it just seems way to formal.
Now, you're mistake (in my opinion) Was seeming too needy, 1st there is no reason why she should meet you other than Attraction and Comfort. And from what it looks like you are not at the stage in a relationship whereby you can just call her and say "hey, you wanna hang out today". look at this from her point, why should she see you? what do you have offer thats going to be interesting for her? also you where slagging off her workplace, she may like her work. everyone complains about there work, we are socially engineered to do so, even if she does complain about her work she may love her job.
i would have done something similar to this:
"Hey [Nickname], nearly time for lunch, what did you make for yourself today? i'm guessing, peanut butter and jelly sandwiches
"
Her reply doesn't matter but play of it if you can
Right now i would use The Cube routine, but it could be anything you have to show her
"[a few words following on from her message] Iv'e just learnt this new game called The Cube, don't get ideas it's a personality test, doesn't really work over text, when are you free to be my test dummy?"
and follow on from there.
You see, you have to create the interest and emotion or at least "jump start" it. So she excited or interested about every message she gets from you. "hey Babe how are you" is the worst text to send, would you send "Hey how are you" to your mates, no because the response you would expect is "I'm alright" and that's it. Send you mates a joke, and you can expect a better response, becuase you created entertainment. now don't txt jokes to girls, but you see my point.
CHAT