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One of the trickiest (for some people - myself included) but also most important parts of this whole thing is you just need to get talkative.
To a degree you're right, however being talkative, is not always the key. Sometimes you can be stuck on a particular conversational thread, and keep going with that thread going no where. There's a point where you can over talk, and over kill the moment with your droning conversation, and presto you've become boring.
The key to a great conversation, is a technique called "open ended questions". Do a search on this, i've come across some threads with this topic, of conversational style.
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the better you are at just speaking and speaking and working off reactions both verbal and physical the better you will be when you talk to women
Great advice, but if you're like me... and you're wondering, ok that's easier said than done. Because there's been no method really given to help you out. Kudo's on the thought process curse, but not the most sound advice for someone who suffers from poor conversational technique, not AA.
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Make it a goal to not go anhour without talking to someone you dont know. Talk to 1000's of people and soon you will find what topics people like to talk about and interesting qwerks about how people react with strangers.
This is advice that i would offer to you if you were suffering from AA
As I mentioned before, open ended questions are the key to maintaining great conversations. Questions that ask about the how, and the why, and the where and the when, helps maintains the conversation. Because, you're not doing the work to maintain the conversation, you're providing who ever you're talking to the opportunity, to carry the conversation. Some examples of good and bad open ended questions to ask...
You're always smiling, how come you're so happy?
The key to this open ended question, is the validation or justification, of the question you're about to ask. "you're always smiling" That's your reason why you're asking, then it's followed by your question "HOW come you're so happy". It's a two part question, offering the person you're talking to the ability to lead the conversation, because remember it's "all about them" not you. As soon as you talk about your self you become annoying, self-fish, and perhaps a touch narcissistic, all traits which reflect negatively upon yourself.
What's the time?
A closed ended question, requiring no more than a one worded response. It's 10 am. Notice, there's no justification for asking this question, preceding your question. Conversations around these sorts questions can lead to a sequence of closed ended questions... eg.
What do you do?
I'm a teacher
so do you like your job?
Yes
Following a sequence of closed ended questions, ultimately can lead to a very very boring conversation.
Now, if then you think you've also mastered the key to answering open ended questions, try this technique, for improving your ability to talk 'on the fly'. The main idea behind this technique is to eliminate from your conversation, words like "um..." and "ahhh..." and precursors for conversations, eg. "like" (oops) and "so.." Words like this can damage your confidence while you're speaking, because words like these show you're struggling to maintain the conversation. So to eliminate this, pick out a random object in your room, library, or where ever you are, and try to talk about that object for 30 seconds without any long pauses, or any "thinking words", eg "like, umm... etc". I'm betting right now you wouldn't be able to go 5 words without stumbling.
TRY IT LOL... Who know's, if you become proficient enough at this skill, you may be able to make this into a gambit, and hussle you're target.
Hope this helps.... i'm off to bed...