This is only with one girl in particular/maybe the group of girls that are friends with her.

But when I'm talking to them one on one, I can have a great conversation with them (most of the time), but as a group, I can never think of anything to say, and the girl i'm trying to get rarely, acknowledges me when Its all girls + me (at least now).

I think this only started somewhat recently, after she came back from holidays I think. I noticed she doesn't respect me, and picks up guys sometimes in front of me, and talks about guys around me. I kind of blew it ages ago. I throw in negs, kino her a few times, But it's pretty inconsistent.

Is it because I'm overthinking the situation? Even if I just wanted to be friends, I rarely have anything to say, I have a few interesting stories, ask her questions. Then nothing. Back in the day we could talk forever.

Our closeness tends to go all over the fucking place, we're awesome one day, and won't talk to each other the next.

The girls said the other night that I'm never happy around them and look miserable, and I realised having high energy (which I did have, but just be mopey) has ALOT to do with success and rapport, but I find it hard now for some reason. Any tips in general?

Cheers

first of all, avoid one-itis or you might come off as a creeper. also, try these exorcises out to become better at opening and get rid of your approach anxiety: 1. Call random numbers and try to get the person on the other line to give you a recomendation for a movie. This will help you use your voice and diffuse awkward situations. 2. try just making small talk with 5 random girls throughout your day and remember their eye colors. This will help you make better eye contact as well as help take care of your approach anxiety.

I got those exorcises from Niel Strauss's StyleLife Challenge. I recomend picking it up and doing the whole month worth of exorcises. Theres also some great briefings and essays in there about this subject.

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All's fair in love and war.

Whenever I meet a girl that has blown me off in my prior AFC days
I make sure they see what they are missing out on.

My ex girlfriend ditched me on christmaseve 2 years ago and I was crushed.
Then I met her last summer at a club. I was having a really goodtime and made her see me dancing my ass of with two girl who I met that night.
She later texted me and wanted to come over to my place that night.
We hadn't met or talked in over 1,5 year.
I thought she was patetic and I sent a message back saying I was seeing someone, even though I wasn't.

She didn't answer.
Just as she wouldn't have answered the next day, if she had come over.

I never make any attempts of going back hitting on a girl that I've failed on.
Why waste your time? She should be crawling on her knees to get a second chance.

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Vino, vedi, vici.
I drank some wine, I saw her, I conquered