Hey guys.
A while back i posted a problem i had while trying to pick up a stripper in the end i had success with her number because f closing her that night was not possible. I sorta stopped calling her because she seemed buzy all the time and stuff so i just forgot about her and moved on. about a month later i got in a fight with a girl and to relieve some stress i went to the strip club and saw my stripper there. i got the waitress to send her over and i talked and negged her for not calling me and blah blah ( i dunno if that is to personal or a good thing to bug her about). Again i cant f close her so i tell her im calling her on monday its her only day off and i leave.

I call her twice on monday and no answer.... i text her and say "im picking you up from work tomorrow or wednesday call me back" and she text me back saying "ill call you in a bit". i never get a call and i call her the next morning, she tells me she has the day off and is going to a beach. i make plans to hang out with her that night. and she totally blows me off cause shes so tierd. by this point im very irritated with her bailing on me. i tell her that i feel like im wasting my time and ask her if its always gonna be like this cause im gonna stop calling her, this seems to work well cause she says " u said either tuesday or wednesday" so i said if i pick u up tomorrow ur not gonna bail? and she says no pick me up at 2 when im off, i say ok.

Now its wednesday im driving to her work a decide to call her at 1:45 and she tells me shes at home... she says we can hang out i just gotta pick her up at her house. i ask for her adress and she seems VERY hesitant on telling me and then her phone fucks up and she says she'll call me back. Now im pissed the fuck off and driving home cursing her name thinking shes been fucking me around the whole time( her phone is turned off). At this point i plan to never talk to her again, but just then she calls me and says shes ready to go and her adress is blah blah blah. so i speed up to her house and pick her up.

I finally have her alone to myself and i drive her straight to my house we start drinking (were both drunk already) and i build keno and start kissing her before we get inside my house. I end up getting her into my bed and making out with her. But when i try and get up her shirt she stops me. I play the bad guy card and start being a bit more aggressive but still doesnt work so i take a hint and back off. WHY is this girl being so diffacult? shes been so hard to get out and talk to on the phone and when i finally have her out she holds out on me.. i tried everything i could of ( i used push pull teq.) Any input on the whole situation would be awsome thanks for listening guys.
CHEERS

She felt like a slut from the first time.

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You know a lot of the women who become strippers have a history of sexual abuse or childhood molestation. There may be deeper issues here than you realize.

Or maybe she's just so used to being seen as a sex object, that she want to stray away from that persona in her personal life. I've heard a lot of strippers and pornstars are very non-sexual when they are not performing.

But i meen she is giving me definate IoI's and shes trusted me enough too pick her up and come to my place for a bit but she just held back on the sex. Does anyone have any ideas on when i should call her again or if i should get her from work that sort of thing...

As long as you keep pushing the boundaries, there's no reason not to call her or pick her up from work.

And considering what Kalel said, you'd probably be better off planning an actual date after work. Something to show her that you're not in it just for sex.

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She is giving you a definate fuck ton more IoDs then anything. She gave you her number which is a great starting point. But you have been flaked on soo many times that you look to me (and probably her) as a enormous AFC. I respect the fact you are persistent but you really need to focus on abundance theory. Also didn't help your case the first time you met up with her you tried going for the lay, normally this would not be a big deal but the fact she is a stripper she probably would look down on that thinking that you think she is a slut. You should have built way more rapport. The only time she responded back to your calls was when you told her you would show up at her work... thats super creepy man and her response to that should be the eye opener for you that she was ignoring your calls and she is putting up with you for the simple fact she doesnt want you stalking her at her workplace. Sorry if I come across as a douche...

I have to agree with Cornflake on this one. She has all the control here...which is expected...it is her job to be in control and if she let's the guys be in control then she will get walked over. But you are playing right into it. Calling her time after time, even after she ignores you or cancels on you. It will be near impossible to get a girl like this serious about you....she is just stringing you on.

Cornflake and Bonita are right on here. Also, she is a stripper, so it can be assumed that a decent amount of guys at her club have tried to pick her up. What exactly is your main motive here?

If you just want a quick lay, how many guys do you think in the last year have tried to get her to go home with them? This could be why she is hesitant; she doesn't want to feel like she is just being used here. Sure she is a stripper, but this doesn't mean she is a slut as well and will put out when you snap your fingers.

If you want something more with her, you need to do something different than these other guys to show you want more than just a quick lay by a stripper, and no offense, but it doesn't sound like you are doing so. You are calling/texting her and more or less pushing the idea of hanging out when she is clearly hesitant. Instead of taking her straight back to your place to get drunk (perhaps sending her the wrong signal), you should take her on an actual day 2.

Wow
The way you make it look, its all about sex for you.
Make her feel its not only about sex, treat her like a HUMAN BEING with honest conversation !
You also showed way to needy. You should have told her, when she called you that you don't have time to be messing around like that. Make it seem like you have options and she will chase you.
And for the love of God, specially on strippers if you want something more serious don't try to f her on the first night. Treat her like a human being not like a slut (despite the stripper stereotype)

Okay, I don't buy into the all strippers are victims line. It's good money which tempting for most hot chicks.

As for it just being stripper game, she gave him her number, answered evenually, if she just wanted to tool him for cash, she'd never give out her number. She'd tell him she's not allowed to give out her # or something and flirt with him, flatter him, and drag out his money. To get money out of him, giving her number isn't needed and complacates things for her.

I'm betting she's flaky chick and/or torn. Maybe he should try and create jealousy by flirting with another stripper?

Seems like a failure from the get go. She was using you for attention and you continued to give it to her. It's string theory and she used it on you. Her being the string held over you, the proverbial cat's, nose. You can't let girls be manipulative like that. It's too late now but you should have made her remember exactly how she felt the night she gave you her number and then made it clear what she was missing. It seems like you number closed and then went straight AFC.
What you should do now is go fuck as many of the strippers she works with as you can, with luck she'll get jealous and bite the bait.

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