i need some help pulling the trigger... i am good creating the attraction but then i just don't know what to do.. what can you recommend me

PUA: Do you want to kiss me?

Girl: Yes (kiss her)
Girl: Maybe ("lets find out" kiss her)
Girl: No ("oh, it looked like you had something on your mind")
Girl: Not now (traslation: "not here, I need more comfort and privacy first")

work your way up. you should know by kino escalation whether you can make out or not. usually, some hand holding is a good sign youre going in the right direction. a good technique is if youre hanging out with a girl, take her hand when going somewhere else within the venue. You can tell by whether the girl squeezes your hand or not if youre pushing the right buttons. ive also found by just going ahead and reaching your hand out to her slightly is a good test as well. its very casual so it can be shrugged if she doesnt want to hold hands. at the same time, if you are leading her anywhere it shows dominance which is attractive to 95% of the girls you will meet

if a girl chooses to go anywhere where it is just the two of you alone, i generally take that as a sign that she is attracted enough to you that you can do some macking. by the same token, its less embarassing to get shot down when nobody can see you.

i used to have a very hard time pulling the trigger. then i sort of came to the realization that by not pulling the trigger, you end up in much worse places. you can end up in the friend zone feeling constant slow agonizing pain over a period of months. the alternative is you just pull the damn trigger. you dont have to wonder if shes into you anymore. even if she isnt interested, you will have proven to her that youre the type of man who goes after what he wants. pussies who worship, complain and cry will never be attractive to a woman.

ultimately, if you pay attention to IOIs and kino escalate, you will come to some understanding of when she is invested enough for you to pull the trigger. field time is the true key to learning these things.

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I have the same problem, sometimes. It's the girls that I really like that I have had trigger problems. I think that it's easy to over think the importance of the interaction and wait for the perfect moment which is often then seen in hindsight, from vantage point of the friend zone......In addition the comfort zone is well, comfortable and the temptation to stay there just for a little longer can be strong. The window of opportunity however can close fast and may never open again so take your chance while you can.
I can relate totally to these wise words as I'm in the friend zone and suffering one-itus now, it's painful and I never want to come here again and that is my inspiration for pulling the trigger with the special ones in the future.


If you have kino escalation, great eye contact and smiles plus the logistics it's usually time to make it happen. One small thing that I noticed with a girl recently is that when we were in comfort she went to the bathroom and when she came back I think she had removed the subtle lipstick she had on previously which I'm going to look out for again in the future.......