aahh well what to say guys i have been brought up in a really religious environment(im a hindu btw) and thats sort of fuckin my game up,everytime im talking to a Hb and inspite of getting IOI's my mind is constantly trying to make me bail out and keeps giving me reasons like "its wrong" and "You have no chance with this girl" ,"your just wasting ur time" etc etc.
And on top of that i had a childhood as a really fat kid and i think that has got something to do with my anxiety,i have shed a lot of weight over the years and inspite of still being slightly overweight i've been told by friends and family that im reasonably good looking.
So guys could really use your help on this one.

self help man. read some eckhart tolle i would say. until then, fake it til you make it. i have dealt with a lot of inner game issues myself with similar background (was fat, raised religious) so i know what youre going through. the other day a girl i was seeing told me that im good looking. like extremely good looking; and that girls at this party were telling her how hot i was. i was completely shocked, but it definitely opened up my eyes a little bit. i worked out and got my body in better shape. i started dressing better. inner game is the same way. just give it some work. dont think of it as it relates to pickup. like anything in pickup, this is a life skill that will bring you satisfaction throughout your whole life. thats the best advice i have for now

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Yeah i have been going through a lot of self help lately and i must say it has helped me tremendously,but i still feel this sort of void in me,its probably cos of the fact that my father passed away recently and i was really close to him and just a couple of months later i met this girl who was just awesome and ok im gonna sound like a typical AFC here but i thought she's the "one" and when she rejected me it sort of had a massive impact on me,it was then that i started reading abt pick-up material but still i have that sort of incongruency in my actions and those horrible deserving issues.For eg the other day i walked up to this Hb 8 and opened and it was going fine for like a couple of mins before i started freaking out and i just abruptly ended up the conversation and walked away even though it was going smoothly well...i mean god that was friggin embarrasing i cant stop beating myself abt it aaah!!!.

Oh btw according to eckheart tolle and most eastern philosophy's desire is the source of all misery,if thats the case and if real self-esteem can be achieved by merely being yourself and not falling into the traps of social conditioning then why the heck should we be into pick-up?I mean isn't being good with women also a desire which tends to be the cause of suffering and pain?

the way i look at it is that yourself is you at the present moment. not the past or the future you. follow with me here

with that being said, each time you go out, that you should be better than the previous you.

the goal should always be to enjoy the present moment. if youre into natural game, mission accomplished. just by going out and being in the moment you are more likely to show your true colors. the other great part of it is that you can make going out about having fun. isn't that what its supposed to be anyway? if youre into a method, master the method; but once you have, start from scratch again. what im saying is learn attractive qualities while constantly matching them to yourself.

there are so many reasons why being in the moment is an important thing to embrace. this is a large part of tolle's message. if you are living in the moment, you will not desire female company. instead, you will experience fully being in female company. when you are actually experiencing life, you dont worry about things like being blown out; because it is rarely the present.

this is where i see the idea of having no desire being applicable to pickup. stop asking questions like "How will this turn out?" "Does this girl like me?" "How did i get lucky enough to pull this girl?" "Should i make this relationship exclusive?" "Is she cheating on me?" "Should I dump her?" "Why did i dump her?". This is not living in the present. In this way, you can be free from desire by enjoying the present exactly as it is. Anything outside of that isn't reality.

i find i used to text girls and if i didnt get an immediate response i would get in worry mode. if i was seeing a girl and wasnt able to contact her, i would get jealous. now i stop myself and ask myself if anything has changed. usually it hasnt. this has stopped me from taking rash, emotionally desperate actions. this one simple change has taken a lot of the unease out of the whole process. This also allows you to be conscious enough about what is going on in your mind, that you are able to bring out your best, most alpha characteristics naturally; because this is really a natural part of all males.

hope this makes sense. i can elaborate further if need be

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