I need some real advice and techniques on how to deal with managing my expectations.
Everytime I start gaming a girl that I'm honestly attracted to I start thinking about what it would be like if were together, If we had sex, if she was my girlfriend ect..
Most of the time this doesn't start happening till im in A3-C1 phase of mystery method and it ends up completely throwing off my game because I end up showing to much interest or end up caring to much about the target before we have even had sex or even kissed.
One of the really bad parts of this is that I dont end up with the girl and as a result It ruins my state of mind because I built this idea up in my head of me and the target going out together, having sex, ect.. and then she flakes on me or just losses interest.Which causes me a lot of emotional pain, which I hate
Any help on this issue would be great because even though I'm completely aware that I do this and the pain it causes me I still cant seem to correct my self and Trying to think my way out of it or ignore my impulse to fantasize about us hooking up doesn't work.
Mayyyynneeee... where the fuck do I start? "A3-C1 phase".... "Target".... come on man, this isn't 2005 anymore. You sound like a robotic nerd living in his mom's basement who thinks that bedding women is like an algebra equation. Seriously, you come off like that. I can see why women would want to run away...
And I am trying to give you a bit of a slap in the face, in order to wake you up. This whole 'phasing things out in little micro steps' doesn't really work. You need to become way more natural and human. That's your first problem, you're coming off like this dude who can't be himself and needs to map out the process of going from 0-fucking her. You need to be yourself, to an extent. You can't pretend to be some other guy. That's how you're coming off.
Now secondly, on another deeper issue, you sound like you're needing these women in order to fulfill some hole you're missing in your life. The fact that you would start thinking so far into the future when you barely know these women and envision them being your girlfriend, etc, tells me you're using these women in order to fill a hole in your life that no woman can ever fill. Trust me, I've tried. This hole can only be filled by handling your life and making yourself happy. If you're not happy, you won't get the 'target'. And don't call women targets man, it just reeks of nerdy perverts scheming to get women. They're women and you want to fuck them, like a caveman. Be in that mindset. And to your other point about 'pretending' you don't want to fuck them, no, you should absolutely want it and be in touch with that desire. Trying to pretend something isn't true in order to get a girl is the definition of a 'wussy', as David D used to say. However, if all you ever think about is fucking girls, then, it's a sign that you have a hole in your life that sex or women won't ever fill. I've been with 90 girls and I'm 26, trust me, I know.
Thirdly, you have trouble connecting with women. You need to focus more on that. It's nice to be able to bust out some routines and 'create' attraction, but honestly, it's all about connection. Connection is truly the determinant of wether you end up fucking her or not at the end of the day. Women crave connection. And in order to do that, you're going to have to come off more natural and less robotic. Get to know them and treat them more like people rather than robots. By being able to connect with a girl effectively while still flirting and using keno, you can sleep with a woman very, very soon. It's how seducers do it. Be a seducer, not a pick up artist.