Happy Halloween people, hope you all having fun out there!!!
I am! thanks.
So I invite the girl telling her she should invite her bf too to a thanksgiving party I'm planning. She's excitedly chattering and raking her insta into my phone as her boyfriend specimen comes up smelling of alcohol. Starts being super negative and aggressive. And even shoves me off.
Nothing wrong with what her bf did.
And I try to keep my cool, explain that I'm merely trying to invite his girl AND HIS STUPID HEAD to what probably will be an AWESOME PARTY but he's not listening at all. Just shouting and being rude and pushy. So I raise my hands, back out, go up to my buddies. "Dre's out," i say and head for the door. The room was small, everyone saw what happened, there was not much I could do at that point.
You're hitting on a girl in front of her boyfriend. What the fuck do you think is going to happen? And please, spare me the "I think these two people are cool and want them in my life" Hallmark card bullshit. You want the girl on her knees.
Where I talk to a girl, vibe and we just talk, no sexual notes, just two human beings enjoying each other's presence and having fun, and then the boyfriends come up and are totally rude and f ing irrational (some guy actually spilt a beer onto my head in college).
dude, you're hitting on a girl in front of her bf, lol. You're in some sort of weird reality disconnect.
Me, I wouldn't shout you down, or get pushy with you. I'd let my gf enjoy her life, and chatting with other guys is part of her freedom, which only makes things hotter.
However, most guys aren't like that. and they're not WRONG to act that way, it's just different from how I operate.
And so I'm not sure how to act in these situations.
You handle it by not hitting on girls whose bf's are right there, lol.
My advice for a single man struggling to find a gf is to spend more time at "meat markets" IE, bars and clubs, and less time at house parties, which are inherently more clique-oriented, and cozy.
Do a google search for "best single's bars in my town".