Hmmmmm... I am athletic and in good shape. I groom properly and wear clean, good looking clothing. I am not ugly. I am smart and can have conversations with women, even get girls to laugh, but I can't seem to spark that sexual tension and attraction. It does happen once in a while, but it sounds like I might need a mentor to be there and help me identify where I am going wrong in that first phase of the interaction.
Attraction is already there, immediately.
It's not something that you pull a lever on.
I can look at a woman, and instantly know she's my type. Women can do the same.
a couple things to analyze:
1. Are you talking too much and fizzling initial interaction?
2. Are you standing out from other guys physically?
3. Are you engaging in mundane chit chat, or holding direct eye contact, and letting silence and tension work to your advantage?
I will sexualize with women immediately.
Her: So, what do you do for a living?
Me: Swim upstream to the place I was born, spawn, then die
(a salmon reproductive reference, obviously)
Anything can be sexualized.
Start reading way more works of literature. Start hitting the weights every other day. Get your muscles bigger, get your brain bigger.