I think this is a question about trust. I'm going to be honest about myself, I'm a great guy. I'm what a lot of girls are looking for. I value and seek committed LTRs. I am silly and spontaneous but also romantic and dedicated, blah, blah, blah. For a girl that is looking for something meaningful and real, I'm the guy. PUA is really just a means to an end to me as I am more interested in finding my future wife than picking up a new girl every weekend.
BUT, sometimes I run into this wall with girls (yes, multiple). It's like the too good to be true effect. I'm not saying they stop seeing me, but they will want to play it safe and take it slow because they've been tricked by douchey guys before or something. I've been through some hard shit in my life too but I don't hold myself back from happiness. I make up my own rules. My longest and best relationship was with a girl just like me who wasn't afraid to let herself be happy. We didn't hold back for anything when we first got together. Anyway, what do I do about these cautious girls? Obviously if they're too "cautious" I should next them (learned that one the hard way). But what about someone who says that they just want to jump off the deep end with me but they need to be careful because of past experiences?
I've found that you can't "tell" women that you're a good guy and all that. It just doesn't work and I don't like doing that either because I don't think that I should have to qualify myself. I feel like the right person won't have to wonder, but hey, maybe there's something I could do better to create that trust and show who I am right from the get go.
Sounds like you're struggling with a shitty POF profile or something here. Or you've got NGS [Nice Guy Syndrome].
Most girls ain't that 'cautious'. They are more reactionary. Meaning they react to what you as a man are projecting.
If you're projecting what your saying above, it's going to come off needy and boring as fuck. And they will be extremely cautious about letting you touch the goodies out of fear you'll get all clingy about 8 seconds later.
But if you project that you're a fun, risky, sexual guy, that is only granting a one time opportunity to sit on your dick. Well then they'll likely fuck you stupid and want to be up YOUR ass 24/7.