| So I have a date set up for tonight. I emailed the woman and let her know my intentions. She knows that I don't want to just be friends and that if we meet, I want to kiss and hug her. I mentioned that I would take it slow as in slow paced, not slow as in we will just talk for the first date and maybe move onto kissing next time (another woman misunderstood me on my last date).
I often noticed that women always seem super nervous around me. It makes me feel like I'm a hunter and the women are like the scared rabbits. This woman I will meet with tonight (if she doesn't flake) is really attractive and although I don't want to mess it up, I want to do some kissing and hugging tonight.
I know that women are emotional creatures and they can't just go right into kissing like men can. Knowing this, I will talk with her a little while, but I have always had trouble with escalating conversations from nonsexual to sexual, without sounding creepy.
For example, one time I was on a date with a woman that actually became my ex gf (still don't know how that even happened). She was really hot, so I was super nervous. My heart was pounding in my chest and I was sweating. I drank a couple beers to calm down, but it barely helped. While we were alone together at this park at night, I remember bsing her with random small talk for way too long because while I was doing the small talk, I was thinking about when to make my move at the same time. It is this strange thing I always do and I really want to know if other people do this as well.
Like I will be talking about my stupid job or something I did with friends, blah blah and while I'm talking about this I will be bored out of my mind and I will be thinking of whether I should just move in for a kiss or if I should transition into a compliment first?
I'm so terrified of intimacy, that I will often move in for a kiss when the woman isn't expecting it. I will often notice when woman is sitting next to me, she seems stiff and doesn't really make eye contact with me. She is always looking straight ahead and glances at me once in a while...even when she likes me? Is my face creepy or intimidating? I do modeling part time, so I know I'm not ugly, but I have Asperger's.
I noticed that this is usually a 50/50 gamble. Half the women I try to suddenly kiss on a date move away and reject me and the other half will let me kiss them. One other problem I often have is that most women that let me kiss them, don't let me keep kissing them. They will stop out of the blue and when I ask what is wrong, they always say something like "I don't know." It drives me nuts. I have good hygiene (brush, floss, breath mints) and I'm not a bad kisser. I don't always "move too fast" because some of the women who had agreed to making out and even sex with me are doing this?
I thought I would see if I could relate to people on here and if anyone has good advice on how to go about this in a smoother manner. I don't want advice such as: Don't move so fast, take it slow, etc. I'm quite tired of the friendzone, that you very much lol.
I have always noticed that the more attractive the woman is, the more intense my fear of intimacy is?
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