To all of you that know my case - this is happening with the current girl i'm trying to deal with, but as I was thinking it was happening with other dates before.

It usually goes like this - we flirt and there is mutual attraction, we hang out hook up and have fun etc, then I probably make some mistake (I suppose somehow revealing insecurity - idk actually) and then she turns from interested to disinterested and acts sort of cold.

To which I just back off in attempt to let her come to me, trying to regain control and strong position, however its very exceptional that she comes to me or by the time she contacts me again I'm most likely with some new girl.

However I realize that I don't to like to jump from one girl to another forever. It is cool for a while to pick up and have experiences with different girls, but eventually it sucks if you make same mistake at same point and don't even know it and things can't progress further than a certain stage. I need to learn what is really happening and work on improving it and fixing it.

I know that its best to 1st look at the reason for why she turns cold. (sometimes it might be just a test from her side) but it will be helpful to know what is best outcome and behavior to present. (both in person and via online/phone communication). Just backing off and me also turning disinterested and cold doesn't do much.

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It's a little too vague, so I can't tell you what's wrong. Some possibilities might be that you start appearing insecure, or that you have attraction, but fail to escalate into something more physical.

It might also just be that you're unconsciously dating girls that are actively looking for relationships, which is okay if the situation is the same for you, but if you're trying to get laid and you're "relationship dating" her, the question for her goes from "Do I want to fuck him" into "Do I want a relationship with him". This is an issue because she might have fucked you, without there being anything long term in it for her, but that option is off the table because it's now inherently linked with having a relationship with you.

However without any additional information it's really, really hard to pinpoint the problem.

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Because i can.

Last time it happened because we couldn't arrange where to go and what to do and couldn't fit each other into each other schedule. I'm very busy as well as she. And I know its my responsibility to handle this, because I'm the man and I should lead the relationship. I couldn't manage to do it and she turned disinterested and eventually gave me LJBF. Now she is disinterested.

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go meet other women