Hey guys.

Has it happened to anybody else? You feel that what used to be relatively easy pickup has become difficult now.

So I frequently meet girls through social circles, at college, work, etc. I don't do cold approaches, though I'd like to. I usually play with them a bit and joke around, and get their contact information. Then I send positive vibes through social media or text, get them responding to me and eventually set up a date. That's pretty much my game.

The problem that has been bugging me lately is that I seem to scare them away by showing too much overt interest. This always happens when we're in person. It's like I mistakenly let them know I like them, but not on my own terms, and this makes them uncomfortable because I wasn't trying to make a move just yet, so I kind of 'blow my cover' without getting the chance to 'woo' them first.

I never had trouble with this before, it was much easier, but it seems that I've lost my way. What gives?

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Well, first I meet them in person, and then we chat on social media, so it's not like I act stalky or anything.

So you would recommend to directly tell a girl that I like her? Balls to the wall, ask no questions? It's never been my style to be so direct, but then again it might be worth a try.

Here's a scenario: you met a chick at college/work and you say hi to each other but don't have much opportunity for a full conversation. You want to get this girl but find it hard to get from point A (acquaintance) to point B (attracted/intrigued), and you don't want to seem needy or creepy, which seems to be what I've been doing as of late.

How do you go about it?

Thanks for the feedback and advice.

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