this is my sticking point. ive always thought you build rapport first than you go to the attraction phase bc now she has more comfort with you and you know her alittle more so you can build attraction with the info she provided you. ive realize this is getting me into the friend zone bc i built rapport and not much attraction with girl that are down to have sex or i cant get the meet up because ive established myself as boring in the first interaction due to building rapport.

i want to open build attraction first then build rapport escalate then pull. anyone do it differently?

ive been trying to open lately and go into building attraction and its kinda of hard for me bc i dont know exactly when to use a neg, tease, banter, be C+F, compliment (to a certain extant), DHV, push/pull. i know each situation varies but hypothetically speaking. i also want to keep the convo lightheart untill i decide otherwise. how can i do that too? I will get better at this but some help

can you guys give me example on how to use each one after the open besides a compliment. SO i can get rid of this sticking point ASAP.

Cheers

First of all I take my hat off to you for approaching, sometimes we may forget this, but the vast vast vast majority of men are too scared to ever do so.
There is no exact right time to use any of this. You need to craft your own way of being.

No wonder it's disjointed if you are trying to remember a bucketfull of techniques for each approach and to implement them in a step by step order. Instead, throw it all into a blender and make a cohesive presentation to a woman. The whole fucking time there needs to be elements of rapport, attraction, escalating, etc.

I can't believe that a guy (not you) would go up to a woman, she smiles and is very welcoming, she is seemingly almost begging him to at least touch her arm and acknowledge her as he starts talking to her, but he thinks to himself "OOPS, I BETTER NOT TOUCH HER YET, IT'S NOT TIME FOR KINO ESCALATION YET, I HAVE TO CHECK OFF BOXES 1 THROUGH 18 FIRST".

I understand that these teaching elements are helpful to give a guy an understanding of the general things a woman is looking for to respond favorably, but it doesn't have to follow a logical step by step sequential order.

Women are real life living beings out in the world. They are unpredictable. They aren't led by logic, but rather by emotion.

So throw some color on your approaches, throw some art into them, be a little unpredictable, mix it up.

When you do this, you'll find ways of being that you can use in your approaches going forward, and you will find your own style.

Give yourself permission to let loose, to let go, and to experiment. To fuck up. To go up to a girl with relaxed energy, to subcommunicate your intent, and to leave her wanting more where that came from.

ocean. yes youre right picking up girl isnt a checkbox u check off. i must of worded this wrong. what i want to know is how do you keep the convo lighthearted. how some good ways (pratice ways/or default) to come up with witty banter, and push/pulls etc this the only thats preventing me from pulling. i dont know exactly how to do any of this. it doesnt stir me in the right direction i need examples. i know ill develop my own style soon, but as of right i need a "step by step" per es to follow. so later on i can just branch off soon.