It seems like a problem that occurs a lot, and I think it happens for a good amount of us guys. Getting a number doesn't mean anything until you meet her in person. Obviously keeping a fun, positively energized conversation is necessary, but sometimes even if you do everything right, logistics aren't in your favor, and you don't want to come off as needy when trying to throw out more times to see her. So I think putting together a compilation of some ways to counter her "I would love to hang out, but I have plans" would help a lot of us out!

Here's one to start us out:

Her: "I would like to hang out but I have plans"
Me: "Yep, they're with me "

It still will not get you the date though even if it is a little cheeky. This is like buying a working parachute whilst descending from the sky with a malfunctioned parachute.

Prevention is better than cure.

Work on the initial game stage and make that reply a:

"ok, what time do we meet Antisoz??!!! xxx"

Your sticking point is getting a solid phone number. Find out why they are flaking.

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People can be flaky for various reasons, but as long as she's actually texting you, you still have her attention and haven't completely lost her. She could just as easily not reply, or straight-up tell you she's lost interest for some reason.

Obviously trying to meet soon as possible is important, so the memory and feeling doesn't fade (despite trying to maintain it over the phone), but I don't think rescheduling is needy. You assume she's telling the truth, and if you both still like each other, then find a more suitable time to meet. Only call her out and address the situation if it becomes a recurring problem... but you still have to keep it playful and don't seem butthurt over it. If she's lost interest, it's never going to happen anyway. Might as well burn it to the ground, and you should have other women in your phone so it's not a huge loss and you're trying to pursue all your current potential leads.

I had a MILF recently accept catching up one evening with "okay, why not" as her attitude, after trying for a few weeks beforehand. I didn't really text anything fancy, it was something like "If you're free tonight, let's rendezvous and enjoy each others company". We banged that night. Granted, older women are a bit more straightforward and probably don't have as much male attention... but it's not over until it's over. Accept if she has plans or some other excuse, and keep trying until she actually says "not interested/I have a boyfriend/try your luck somewhere else/something else that suggests she was never really into you". But like I said, you should keep meeting other women and focus more on rewarding those you actually get along with.

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I've run into that before... best thing to do is to confidently plow through and get a definite date and time.

One thing to avoid is getting them to commit to a specific time, because its easier for them to flake out or come up with an excuse. Also, they may genuinely have plans and not really understand that you don't care about that specific time, you just want to go out with them whenever. So don't shoot yourself in the foot with a girl who would otherwise go out with you simply because you happened to pick the same time she has class or a dentist appointment.

I say things like, "I had planned on hitting up the mall later today if you want to meet me." Of course, "later" means the entire rest of the day until it closes, because you'll go at whatever time she agrees to meet you there (but don't give her that impression obviously). You have to make it as easy as possible to rendezvous, because a girl's natural instincts will be to create obstacles and scheduling problems no matter how insignificant they actually are.

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The thing about a phone number is that you should be getting it with the sole purpose of setting a day up to meet. If you lay solid groundwork, more often than not, she is going to be on the same page. I used to get phone numbers like this:
1. Open
2. DHV
3. Escalate
4. Phone number
This has led to a lot of flaking incidents.

Now I usually do it more like this if there are no time constraints:
1. Open
2. Escalate
3. Phone Number
4. Instadate/Escalate
If I can't get an instadate, I still continue to talk and attempt to build attraction.

The point is that it is less likely she is going to "have plans" if she has already enjoyed her time with you and you've built solid attraction. If you give her a day and she is busy, she will more than likely offer you a more convenient day for her.

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