Hey guys,

I like to solo sarge the night club scene and use eHarmony in combination to score friendships, dates and F-closes.

I have a specific sticking point when it comes to Day 1 Game for many girls that I meet from eHarmony.

In the past, I have gone on eHarmony dates after going through the stages of communication and then sending emails, progressing to texts and a phone call if I am feeling it.

Some of the dates have gone well and led to F-closes but others are tough because the girl is so shy/nervous and she won't hardly talk. This prompts me to start the conversation. Which I hate doing because I easily slip into DHV stories and talking about myself which sounds needy and takes away my mystery factor.

I recently viewed some of Gambler's material and I like the idea of creating awkward silence to prompt the girl into talking.

I went out with an HB 6 this Friday. As soon as I saw her, she was not the HB 8 that I predicted in her photos. I was aware of this possibility but I continued the date anyway as a means to practice old and new concepts.

The sun had set, we got our coffee and sat down. I looked at her with heavy eye contact and a slight smile to try and prompt her into talking. This failed miserably! She froze up and things got real awkward real quick! I was about to just say "Well, it was nice meeting you!" one minute into it. I could tell she was not going to say a word. So rather than eject, I fell back into my old pattern.

Is there anything I can do to avoid this? Are there any questions that I could ask that are unique and not the same old boring shit that these girls hear day in day out?

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Sarging is like going to the video store. How do you ever expect to find Casablanca if you keep renting Jackass? Different results do not come from repeated behaviors.

After a little reflection, I think I got this.

I think that everything will be fine if I just spend more time and effort building rapport with these online girls before meeting them.

M.E.G.A.

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Sarging is like going to the video store. How do you ever expect to find Casablanca if you keep renting Jackass? Different results do not come from repeated behaviors.

I. Remove her fears.

You could be an axe murderer. You could be a rapist. You could be a psycho. Play the name game. Where she went to school... where she grew up, her favorite coffee shop, etc... find commonalities but mostly, find common "people". If she's been to the same restaurant that you've been to, name the dishes you like. Ask here what she orders, but more important than that, "Oh, so you know Paul. . . " Actually figuring out that she knows somebody that you know is not as important as the possibility that it could happen. It means you're normal. You go out. You meet people that she could possibly meet. It shows you don't stay in the basement, sharpening knives in your spare time.

II. Find your way in.

After fears are removed, it's time to figure out her passions. All you need to do is poke around. If you ask her, "Hey, what are your passions?" - she freezes. Instead, you bounce from topic to topic. "Can't wait until it warms up... I'm going to live on the beach." - You'll figure out right away if this is her thing or not. Vacations, movies, restaurants, bars, music, etc . . . pretty easy to segway into various topics. You won't need to really think about when to stop introducing new topics because she will do this for you.

III. Do it together.

If the topic is a tangible topic such as her favorite bar in the city . .. and she rattles off her favorite drink, dj, etc. . . your reply is, "Awesome. Let's check it out this Saturday." If the topic is a fantasy... like a favorite movie or a dream vacation, bridge that topic with something that is tangible. "Oh shit, that reminds me. The bar on ____ does Mai tais better than anything I ever had in Hawaii. You'd love it."

Again, it's not as important that you gain that second date now, as it is that you plant the idea that there is a future... Even the girls who are into ONS do not want guys to think of them as "good for only one night".

Many ways to go about ^this.

Good stuff! It explains why one of my Facebook dates from a couple years ago (we met b/c of a mutual friend) went so well; it's because we already had our friend in common.

I just ended a 2-year relationSHIT a couple of months ago and I am just refreshing myself on all the old concepts and looking to improve my weak areas.

Meeting girls from the internet is for sure different than meeting them in public. Personally, I prefer in public because it's more exciting and everything is right here right now. Pressure is on the guy and the girl to seize the opportunity or risk never seeing each other again.

On the internet, girls can put a magnifying glass on anything in your profile and there is a bigger chance of them cooling off between messages. I just like it because it's a way to chat up girls in between weekends.

M.E.G.A.

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Sarging is like going to the video store. How do you ever expect to find Casablanca if you keep renting Jackass? Different results do not come from repeated behaviors.