Hey all! Grand Pua here looking for some insight on how to improve my game. First off let me just explain a little about myself and areas I am lacking in so that you can get a better idea of whats going on. I recently came to a realization that the things that I am doing to attract girls or make friends is not working. I have two really close friends who kind of faded away recently. One had joined the military and the other had gone off to college far away, so I speak to them rarely. As far as women, I have had a few girlfriends over the years and random hook ups. When I think back on it, I really have very little game skills or people skills for that matter. For me I feel like my negativity is or was becoming a real problem for me. Recently I started to listen to the audio toolbox files on PUA and figured out some of the basic changes I could make to not only attract women more (body language, eye contact, kino etc etc etc.) but I still have two major problems and one smaller problem. My major concern areas are:
1) Approaching a woman. I can easily look everyone in the eyes and smile at her, (I have been practicing to just walk around with my head high, good posture and smile and I have been getting smiles back. I have also made it my goal to atleast hold a gaze with a beautiful girl or get a smile back from across the room each day for the past week.) I’ve had decent success with this but I feel like when it comes to strolling over to her, my mind just shuts it down. I can’t figure out how to get past this.
2) At times when I do talk to girls who I am aquaintances with or in the past when I did try to approach girls I would luckily get past an opener (which im still not too great at) and would/still have a tough time transitioning to a romantic/sexual/meaningful conversation.
3) My voice gets higher when I talked to girls (pretty or not) and I have trouble getting a hold of it.

I feel if I could get past these parts I could really take it from there, those are fundamental parts that I need to work on and would truly appreciate if anyone has any tips or personal stories that they could share, I would greatly value your time. Thank you all in advance!

GPUA

1) Do you have female friends or do you work in a place where you have to communicate with females? If so, generate the will power by consistently talking to women, this can also be achieved by joining classes, clubs, societies. Just let go, its all in your behaviors, look around for inspiration, especially men with attractive women and how they behave, what they do.

2) Its all in your confidence and behaviors, be honest with her, try to smile, banter, make her laugh, hold eye contact.

3) Just practice speaking, talk slowly, you need to get your confidence up.

Thanks for your reply. I think your right about generally getting my confidence up overall. I think I'm going to observe more men with ladies and see how they operate in flirtatious situations.

GPUA

No problem. I used to have all these self limiting beliefs, however, once I stated observing men with attractive women, how they behaved, what they did, even what they looked like, most of all my self limiting beliefs went.