Hey Guys,

Out of being an AFC - I have since discovered the PUA world in the last month.

Was wondering if anyone could help advise me on a sticky point.

I recently went out on a date with a girl who I found to be absolutely amazing. Not looking to fuck her but genuinely to have a relationship. Saw her in a picture with a friend of mine on FB and told my friend how incredibly beautifly she was etc.

Added her friend and it was on. My friend had clearly talked to her and she was really into me - she even suggested that we grab a drink.

I am a pretty good looking guy and most girls think I am pretty hot - but clearly I have 0 game.

We went on the date and clicked and had an amazing night - thought she was the one.

Went overseas, came back 6 days later - then called her up. No reply. Called her a few hours later No reply.

Messaged her - 'hey tried to call - everything ok?' - she replies 'yeh just on the phone to my mom..sorting out some stuff'.

Spoke a bit after and I am ashamed to say, but I didn't want to lose this girl because I really felt like we are amazing together and could tell she is like marriage material ( I know it sounds lame ).

Long story short, I told her that I really wanted to take her out because at this point I felt that it was already dead and so I thought whatever I may as well try and that I really felt something.

She didn't reply.

I want to know - in this scenario - where the date went so well and she was so into me - what did I do wrong?

Clearly at the end - when she wasnt even interested - I tried everything and it came across as desperate but I genuinely thought it was dead.

Any help would be welcome - have started reading the book 'the game'.

Thanks,

James

You thought she was the one after a little facebook banter and one date? Dude get a grip. In the future if you message and she doensn't respond then you dont call and message again. When you go out with more girls stop overthinking about the future right off the bat and start living in the moment. Don't chase this girl any more as you are already going to come off more needy than you already have.

No.

Come on. Really? The bitch is ignoring you and you don't even know her. She could be a closet racist or a sociopath. You may also have noticed an abundance of other women out there walking around.

I get it - date went well and you've got a little crush on her - it happens. You need to back off her a bit though, and look at other options.

The harder you push on her to talk to you, the more she'll pull away cause you're being needy. She may also be sensing you're already planning your wedding with her and naming your children after one date. And that's creepy as fuck.

Besides the fact that you were way too into her, next time if you go away, find someway to stay in contact. 6 days is a long time to wait to contact someone after a first date.

to be honest im in the same boat as you man, the problem is that shes keeping you hanging:

she gives you IOI's but she never gives you a major sign that she doesnt like you.
instead of telling you straight up that she doesnt want to hang out, she would rather not reply to texts and calls.

Because of this she doesnt deserve a lot of respect.

If a girl rejects you, you get over her

if she likes you, you stop feeling anxious and needy

if she gives you signs she likes you but never replys to texts and calls, she is keeping you hanging because shes too scared of losing your feelings even though she doesnt feel them back.


you can ask her out- if she doesnt reply or says shes busy and doesnt tell you when shes free, imagine her saying "fuck you!" and that will help you get over her.

in your mind she is on a pedestal which is why shes on your mind, you need to remind yourself what her flaws are. eg: shes fucking other guys who put in 1/10th of the effort you do, and shes a bitch for saying stuff like "lets hang out" but never gives you a time.

once you accept this you will feel like a huge burden has been lifted, i know because this happened to me last night.

amazingly, i had the same story as you! what a coincidence!

so i started texting her once we were both back in town and she says "HEY!! i havnt seen you in ages my dear! we need to catch up soon! "

i replied with "cool, are you free saturday/sunday?"

no reply

2 hours later i give it a last ditch effort and say "ill take that as a maybe then?"

never replied

i went out with her best friend that night because she is attracted to me (lol) we had an awsome time just the 2 of us, and the girl i like went out too but she ended up going home with some dude and probably blew him...

at first i was angry, then sort of sad, then i realised that shes really not worth my effort, or respect and that this will make me stronger, resilient, and not so much of a needy little bitch. So take it as a life lesson, fall in love with yourself before you get a crush on her.

Any guy who falls in love this quickly, even if the girl really is great, is the kinda guy that a girl does not like at all. You gotta understand guys. They don't like a romantic nice guy. They want a badass. A guy who believes in love sends out all the wrong subcommunications to a girl. Sending out vibes likes "I really like you", "I'm romantically interested in you" repulses a girl. Sending out vibes that say "you're fun but nothing special", "I've got a lot of women in my life", "I don't believe in love and I never want to settle down" are the kind of vibes that girls like.

Also being respectful towards a girl is horrible. Girls hate guys who are respectful towards them. Don't get me wrong thought - being actively disrespectful will blow you out immediately. However, being respectful towards her sexuality will cause her to lose interest right away. You should always try to fuck the girl on the first date. Doing anything less will cause her to lose respect for you.

You may think that the ideal date is one where you everything goes smoothly and you have a lot of fun but that is not correct. The ideal date is one where you have a lot of fun but you get into some sort of minor fight with the girl that challenges her. If a girl wins you over with her personality, she will feel no need to fuck you or have a relationship with you because she feels like she has already conquered you.

My advice is to become a true lout towards women. Then all the right behaviors and attitudes towards women will come naturally from you. Don't become some sort of bitter woman hater though - that will bring you nothing but failure. Instead, become a cad who can't be bothered to consider a woman's emotional needs.

This is the truth.

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