I've got a bit of a query

You take a girl out for a day 2, its going well.. she likes you. You're deciding on the next move now. This is going to dictate the logistics for the rest of the night.. With all the indications and info you have up to that point, you need to make an assessment of her interest levels and decide then and there if you're going to take her home or you're going to call it a night.. no fence-sitting. Usually, you'll just say YOLO and go for it. But what if you can sense that she's the type of girl who has these preconceived ideas of how a girl should be on the first date, etc. Let's say you choose to go for it.. You pull the shifty "let's just drop by my place for sec". You get her back to yours, you make the move and she's okay with kissing and groping her ass etc, and you try to escalate further and she gives you the LMR.. and says 'we shouldn't do this'.. obviously, you'd take it as token resistance and keep going.. but eventually she has it set in her mind that she isn't going to do it and you feel that there's not much left you can do to save it. You have to call it a night. Does that mean you have ruined it? I mean if you have to then call it night after trying ur best to hit a homerun and missing, what happens next time? Will she have lost respect and desire for you, suddenly thinking your a chump that she can now control with sex coz she's figured you out? If there is a next time, how would you move things along this time, with her knowing your little trick of pretending to just "stop by your house" as a ploy to get sex? Because had you chose not to take her home.. you could have made the date a little less interesting than you otherwise would have and saved your big guns for next time.

I'd really appreciate to hear some feedback from you guys of any similar situations where ur girl really liked you but you just couldn't get her down for sex.. did you see her again? How did u close the deal the next time? Or maybe its because I'm not making her comfortable enough to overcome the LMR.. have there been any cases that you thought you weren't going to close, but then finally broke through her LMR?? How did you do it? I'd actually really like some better tips on overcoming LMR in seemingly impossible girls. I need some do's and don'ts because on a separate note I was with a married (soon-to-be-divorced) woman last night.. who i'd had unprotected sex with week prior.. she asked me if I was alright last night while we were at work (like std/sti wise).. I didn't really know what to say.. she brought up my trip to thailand, I played it cool, but she kept asking me.. So i shrugged it off and teased her.. she said stop "playing with me" and grabbed my leg..so I knew it was on.. and we started kissing and I started taking her clothes off.. but this time she kept on telling me to be honest with her and said "she can't do it" which she also said last time despite going through with it .. and while I was trying to get access downstairs she just wouldn't let it go.. I got her undies off and then she still just kept on freaking out about something and saying "nup, I seriously can't do it" and pushing me away, I couldn't understand what it was (i'm sure it wasn't the sti thing, bcoz she had a whole week to ask me), and I just couldn't break her frame... it was awkward as fuck after that..

I've got another query.. I've always thought with girls.. its kind of gotta be all-or-nothing.. If I don't go for the sex with a girl as soon as possible.. if I fall into the trap of thinking I don't need to have sex with her now I can wait, and I get comfortable going on dates with her and hanging out etc.. it'll be a lot harder for me to get sex when I want it later, because she'll want me to commit or else nothing.. whereas if I can nip it in the bud nice and early, I then have the choice of whether I want to be just casual fwb's or make her something more. When I think this way.. there is a bit of an all-or-nothing mentality.. because If I don't go for it.. i'm gonna be stuck liking a girl who I can't have sex with when I want to. I feel I need to take the sex away from her so that she can't use it against me.

However, this just doesn't feel natural to me.. because I'd love to just let things go on autopilot and enjoy getting to know one another with no pressure etc.. but I feel I have to do it because if I don't go for the push, i'll be screwed later down the track.

I'd appreciate some of your thoughts on this. Its always puzzled me. Hopefully I've managed to articulate what I'm trying to say here.

Thanks heaps for reading guys.

Alex