so "This same thing has happened to me several times and I want to know what I can do next time with the next girl" IS A STICKING POINT

just got from outside and I will try to put this sp in words



Hey guys,

SP: Progressing from nonverbal to verbal,how to develop things further from proximity|nonverbal|stealth kino when the moment of truth emerge and you are not in the best mood to dominate and lead things via social dynamic?


So as for long repeating version here it is as it was for the last event this night;

1. cafe lounge: cool cocky comedy moment, I go by the bar counter near HB and when she is expecting to hit on her like a dork, I pull cocky comedy vibe, and in one moment I find myself talking to my wing about how last time I had the episode that 2 Hbs were just waiting at the counter to shoot down any dork who would approach them. BOOM! I defused the HB, she went relaxed and copy-infected with my enthusiastic cocky vibe with her female group.

And man, I know it I see it but I still do not open it.First out of consideration is it enough confort, later even I see she start giving peek-turns to my side to give opportunity for me to enter-I get blank on what to communicate to her.Aargh! When I get past the window of opportunity and get stuck in reduced connection opportunity..I felt its best to finish the drink and go try out luck somewhere else.

later

we get into the other cafe..and some girl go to open my wing..I sense the whole group sitting is getting the rush! So I feel that and dive in the table with babes.And they ask something but after few sentences it waters down..Like improper communication.So I eject.But they were getting hot before.It was something with communication,hm.

...later.. go there and there but not doing verbally nothing..and the vibe start to go down..

Me and my wing go home to rest..

..I rest in the car..somehow get myself together and decide I am good enough for the last scene this evening.The night club.

I go in night club..enough people.Great. I order a drink,just being light and chill enough to display some amount of fun with everything.

And I am not in specially talkative mood.Kind of feeling tired to talk to anybody so you just chill with a drink, looking like somebody that is having fun while being chilled.

Then the girls start to come around,brushing against me or coming in proximity to give opportunity to be handled.Then I feel my mind is blank as to how to communicate verbally,how to handle that.I would like to come direct to her and say "ok lets fuck"..

The girls that brush and come in "accidental" kino that you do not move away when she slightly press her against you with one part of her or another..or even eye contact (arms,legs,back to back etc. all that a girl /and me+girl communicate) - well you know the feeling you have to say something when all that is already communicated non-verbally.

Tonight I felt that barrier.Like I am battery low and I can appear that I am amused but cannot bridge to open/verbal communication.

I was in disco and e.g. the chick (I knew instinctually from before that she have a reaction to me) - and bam that was the first to somehow appear in proximity and with a group of friends I do not know.

Guys I Swear she came into me 20 times or so all by intereacting with her group and I enjoyed us touching with leg to leg, hand to ass,back to my arm length etc. (NOT showing intent from my side..just NOT removing when she brushed with her ass a little onto my hand)

I'd say communication with the room is only nonverbal from my side (vibing) and I am far from getting to verbal. The best I can do while stuck in this mode is to be chilled and relaxed,but when I see things start developing nonverbally, I feel I would be delighted just to cooly grab her hand and go fuck <insert any pretty girl giving proximity alert here>

So for this stealth kino example;
She enjoys,I enjoy,nobody knows, its stealth, I gave her secret joy from our touching and she is ready for something,for more than just that.How to handle that something where I get stuck. but I instinctually feel that she want it a notch further,and I am with my mind running what to say in which way to handle that but meet my mindbody get stuck on how to handle that moment of truth.

Now I have to do something different,say something from this all nonverbal to verbal,you get how the situation developed,that anticipation from her for something to happen and me picking that up..and do not know if group is okay with that but I just do not feel like doing comedy talking with the group.I was kind of not on that level so wanna chill, so when these chicks wanna do kino, I like it but I am stuck to progress.

This is the pattern.Fuc**ng fear especially when tired and not talkative mood.


So to make it clear:

After some time of proximity/non-verbal communications with HBs, I wanna do something,but when things develop enough then <SP> my mind is blank on what to say and what to do due to not being enthusiastic/open or just plain stuck frozen to bridge the gap.