It's a fine balance. Are you being persistent which is attractive? Or are you being pushy and needy, which is one of the biggest turn-offs for girls that exist.

So I'm in that situation. My question/conundrum is “in general” but as always rooted in an example.

The story
I’m 26. I’m fairly good with women. I've been in the game for about 4 years, had a girlfriend for about a year and we recently broke up. So now I'm single again. Woop woop. But a bit rusty.
I met this girl at a party Saturday. Hot. Personally, my 9. We hit it off really well. Kissed and giggled all night. At some point I had to go home, and I said something along the lines of "I've got brunch tommorow morning, so I have to go. Let's split a cab?"
Got a little resistance but we ended up in the cab together. She kept saying "you can't sleep at my place.", delivering all kinds of different reasons. I don't know exactly what the right reason was and will probably never know if I don't ask You know how it is with girls...
Because I had a little too much to drink, I end up being pushy. I try to logically explain to her why it's the best idea in the world for me to sleep there. She doesn't quite agree, so I end up walking home...
Right before I leave, we kiss and she asks for my number. She asks me to text her then, so she has my number as well (some problem with her phone).

I text her on the way home.
4AM me: Well hello! Have a blast at work. Here's my number, *name*.

Next evening she texts back
22PM her: Hey.. Sorry I didn't respond before now but it was a hard day at work. Went straight home and slept.. Hope you had fun at brunch ..

I was asleep so I texted her at lunch break
12PM me: They came from *place* at 9 and stayed all day. Was nice.. Could've used another 3 hrs of sleep tho. By the way did you see the Fearless Felix!


She didn't respond after that and it's been a good 27 hours so I don't expect her to respond on her own anymore which leads me to the conundrum. I have this "rule" that I don't send 2 texts in a row without a reply. She hasn’t replied to my second text which admittedly is not the funniest text on earth but it should spark at least a little interest and at the very least a response. “No I didn’t see that”.

Now I’m between three options.

1: Pretend nothing happened and send a text tonight, about the same time she sent me one (she’s apparently available at that time)

2: Go for the “all-in”. Show persistence as Chase describes it (totally my favorite guru btw). It’s a make-or-break and I wouldn’t do it if I didn’t know for sure that we had chemistry. At least at some point. It goes something like: “*Name*, hey! Had fun Saturday, sorry you had to deal with drunk-teenage-*myname*. If you still feel like sober-*name* some time (think it’s a very different experience) it’s straight forward to meet for coffee on blabla. If I’m mistaken, which I doubt, then it’s cool and I wish you an amazing life”

3: Forget it. Don’t be needy, GFTOW. Let it rest etc.

What do you think happened?
What do you think I should do?
When are you persistant? When are you pushy or needy?

(Might edit for spelling errors in a bit)
SP

A little trick for inviting yourself into her place. Make no indication that you want to come up with her beforehand. If she brings it up on the way there, advise her that you can't/shouldn't. Then when you get there tell her you have to take an epic piss, and ask to use her restroom. What is she going to tell you no? She'll say ok, even if reluctantly. Then you are in her place without any expectations. Once you get out of the restroom you kind of mill around and leaf through her shit, flirting and asking stupid questions. Hopefully you can then get something going from there.

As far as the other stuff, stop texting now! You've already revealed your hand and chased way too much and become too needy. Let time heal those wounds and if you don't hear from her, text or call her in a few days and tell her to meet you out somewhere. Be a little cocky and assumptive. Based on her reaction you can then calibrate and find out if she really likes you or not. If she's not interested, move on. If she shows IOIs, keep gaming accordingly.

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Thank you for the reply puaninja

I like your idea with the "bathroom" gimmick. Never occurred to me! What if she genuinely doesn’t want you in the apartment and you’re browsing through her stuff? I can imagine that being a bit… Weird

On your second point: I doubt that I sent a clear enough signal, that I’m interested in more than sex. Not that I am (we live far apart) but girls like to know that you are curious about other things than their looks/vag. I didn’t qualify or use PUA tricks really. Since I’m rusty, I just went with the flow and probably did some ‘tactics’ unconsciously. I definitely remember that me ‘pushing’ to get into the apartment was a bit of a turn-off for her (Verbal pushing mind you)… Who knows, if she was already turned off in the cab though. Girls can be so mysterious!

I will follow your advice in this case though… And wait it out.