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I keep getting LMR whenever I bring girls back to my place. This has happened at least 10 times already! What am I doing wrong?
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PostPosted: Mon Oct 15, 2012 6:14 pm 
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Well i want one but at the same time i freeze up and iffy about it and push it away. I've never hard a one night stand so i guess I'm scared, because i dont know how to go about it, how to ask the girl to come back to my place.

Me and my friend will be at bars and girls just flock to me. My friends always tells me that girls are looking at me and want to hook up.

I always seen my friend as a guy who could get alot of girls but when were at the bar im the one that talks to more girls and dancing with girls which is crazy to me.

How do i go through with a one night stand, how do i just stop being a pussy about it. I've always been the type of guy that wants to talk to a girl for a few days before we do anything because i guess i have my guard up idk. how do i get out that mindset and get into a one night stand mindset.


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the only is to go through it until you become desensitized, just like when you move to a new area and you dont know anyone, STOP THINKING


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This thread isn't about ONS. It's about how to close sets. I would say you need to start with the basics of the Mystery Method. I like the way he f-closes. To ask how you "go through with a one night stand" is the same as asking how to fuck a woman. That's not what you are really asking, and if it is, you need to start by looking at sexual confidence, seduction, and sex techniques. But I can tell you just are unsure about how to get girls back to your bed to f-close them. You have fairly weak game it sounds like, and you're more laid back. Probably used to getting number closes, then text gaming, then hoping it progresses over a period of time and eventually leads to sex. But you need to be more aggressive if you want a ONS. It's fast paced and you need to escalate like a motherfucker. It should flow like this: open, comfort, rapport, break rapport, attraction, seduction, time-bridge, overcome LMR, f-close. Go do it.

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For some reason, this made me think of this amazing post from IAmMaximus (an old MASF poster). It's seriously one of my all-time favorites and i think it's applicable to the situation
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This is a very simple personal motto that's really helped me stay motivated and power through AA, bad states, poor logistics, rejections, etc. It's a simple way to reframe yourself as a guy who does, rather than a guy who thinks.

GATA is a very simple acronymn that's become my personal creed over the past few months.

GATA="Get After That Ass!!!!!!"

For me, this has been the 3 second rule, "Make the ho say no!," State, subcommunication, alpha-ness, persistence, all of that stuff rolled into one. It teaches you to think on your feet and build confidence within yourself. It harnesses your sexual energy into something productive.

You see a girl you think is cute? GATA!

Approach Anxiety killing you? GATA!

Don't know an opener? GATA!

Unsure what to say next? GATA!

Approach angle sucks? GATA!

Dressed like shit when a HB appears? GATA!

You get shot down by 10 girls? GATA!

Afraid you might show too much interest/neediness? GATA!

Intimidated in any way? GATA!

Nervous about escalating? GATA!

Don't know how to DHV and neg the target while feeling the Nimbus upon you and disarming obstacles while preparing your timebridge to the Day2 sex location? Fuck all that! GATA!

In the end, taking right action and just approaching girls will do more for you than reading (or stressing over) any theory or technical aspect of PU, which IMO only refine that into a more precise skillset in the hands of a seducer who already has this basic stuff handled.

You may think you're an artist, but an artist is someone who creates SOMETHING through ACTION! You've got to take the ACTION to be an artist. You've got to take the ACTION to ACHIEVE ANYTHING! Otherwise you're just a mental masturbator.

When you're out sarging, don't worry about the precise technical stuff in the moment. That will just fuck you up. If you feel any anxiety, any uncertainty, remember to GATA! GATA trumps the negativity and the excuses.

Now go GET AFTER THAT ASS!!!!!!
I think it's applicable. Also, in the same vein. Here is a link to his fairly decent newbie guide. I consider it a classic post on the basics of pick-up.

http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/se ... 8775617989

I hope some of that is helpful.

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Well i want one but at the same time i freeze up and iffy about it and push it away. I've never hard a one night stand so i guess I'm scared, because i dont know how to go about it, how to ask the girl to come back to my place.

Me and my friend will be at bars and girls just flock to me. My friends always tells me that girls are looking at me and want to hook up.

I always seen my friend as a guy who could get alot of girls but when were at the bar im the one that talks to more girls and dancing with girls which is crazy to me.

How do i go through with a one night stand, how do i just stop being a pussy about it. I've always been the type of guy that wants to talk to a girl for a few days before we do anything because i guess i have my guard up idk. how do i get out that mindset and get into a one night stand mindset.
Wont elaborate on your pick up skills or anything, but if you want to bring a girl home and you already flirted with her (a.k.a danced, kissed, etc.) you say: Hey come back at my place tonight.

Tadam.

Took me a while to understand that, and honestly, it's harder than it seems, but hey, I was the most surprised when I first saw girls accepting the offer.

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thanks everyone for the info...really like GATA.


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