So I am mainly an online player right now. I have picked up a number of SB8s off of OKC and POF recently. The latest one just has me twisted about my game.

So I meet this chic online - she's smokin', rich, cool, smart, funny. She agrees to meet for a drink. We get together and hit it off (she's 15 years younger but doesn't seem to care). I definitely have built some attraction. Then she wants to go to another bar so we go and her friends are there. They are cool - kinda nerdy but cool.

Anyway, we sit down in a booth and I can feel the attraction disappear. Some ugly dude who is obviously a PUA comes into our booth and starts working her right there. She is somewhat attracted. He barely even says anything but I can tell she's more attracted to him than me (and I am way better looking).

I can't get it back after that. My mind starts freezing up. Then he asks me to pick a song any song I want to hear from the DJ. I fucking freeze like a moron. I can't answer - she answers for me. Beginning of end.

Date that started with serious sexual attraction and chemistry ends with a "it was nice meeting you" hug.

I seem to have this pattern -- I tend to build a lot of attraction at the beginning of the date, run out of things to say or get kind of awkward in the middle and end up turning them off.

I don't think I'm mental and I have everything going - looks, money, engaging/ funny stories but something just clicks and I either shut down or can't put on the after burners to really close the deal.

I think your mistake here was deciding to "hang out" with her friends rather than keeping her in isolation in the context of a date.

If you struggle with keeping things going then a formal system like MM or Magic Bullets might give you a useful outline until you've internalised the basic ideas to the point where you no longer need a formal structure.

Alternatively, if you prefer the 'natural/direct' approach, keeping in mind the idea of escalating and bouncing her back to yours during the high point of the interaction could help.

Good luck man

This! Never let the girl plan the date and NEVER do anything that involves hanging out with her friends (it's always a trap). Hanging out with her friends puts you in a situation where she has all the social proof and you have none.

-Wolf

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Thanks Wolf. Yeah, she didn't tell me her friends were going to be there until we walked in.

So question - the first half of the date was rockin'. Serious chemistry. We played pool and I let her win and then schooled her on the second game. I was rubbing her leg at one point and she was giving me pretty much all the signs of attraction. I had her cracking up the whole time. She was also DTF on her profile so she's a high value target for me right now.

At this stage, is there something I could text her to salvage a shot at date #2? Maybe she'll forget the schmucky stuff in the second bar?

Something like: "Hey, it was fun hanging with you the other night despite the weirdness at the end. I would do it again". OR

"You're a fun girl. Too bad I was falling asleep at the Tiki Bar. Serves me right sleeping 4 hours the night B4".

Any other ideas?