Hello, this is my first post here....Im semi-new to the pua field, but don't get me wrong, im not some afc, who wishes to become the worlds best pua. i know how to attract girls, keep a conversation flowing, how to throw in a couple negs, get that kino up. the only thing im not so good at is my texting game. when it comes to texting, i freeze up like its my job. i feel like when i text my game is completely different when im in person, and i honestly dont know how to fix that. Any pointers any of you all have would be great. Thanks in advanced.

This has to be my most frequently repeated bit of advice: only text to set up logistics (i.e. to figure out where and when you're going to meet up with a girl next). Ignore inane comments and only reply to direct questions if you feel like it. Just trust me on this.

-Wolf

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What are some good ways to create plans without seeming so anxious? In other words how do i make her want to chill with me?

I am actually interested in your methodology Wolfwoodd? I while i tend to agree with you I have sent random text to girls that i may have lost connection with or dont remember like " I love pickle juice." its so random that it usually starts up a leading conversation or a phone turn to a date . But maybe im missing the mark . I always am looking to perfect my game . Am i giving them too much attention?

First, always have a game plan in mind before you text a girl. Invite her to do something fun or to try something new. I always take girls the same place on first dates and I have it down to a science. I'll text or e-mail something like "Have you been to XYZ before, we should go check it out. What are you doing on (pick a day)?" She'll either say "sounds good" or "I have to work" or whatever. If that day doesn't work for her, then just offer another day until you find one that works. After that part, I'll say "Okay, I'll call you later and we can work out the details".

I ALWAYS call a girl and talk to her on the phone before going on a first date. I find that it drastically reduces a girl's tendency to flake out at the last minute. If a girl DOES call/text and cancel, then act like it's not a big deal (i.e. don't get upset or say anything snarky) and just offer to reschedule for a time that works better.

Remember, dating is a numbers game and the faster you can spot the time-wasters, the better. My method is very direct.. the girls who are actually interested in meeting up with me are all for this and the time-wasters disappear quickly.

-Wolf

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I'm not against *pinging* girls who I haven't talked to in a long time (which is what you are talking about), but don't really do it that much. I still would probably go ahead and invite them to something rather than texting them something silly. I'd probably say, "My friends and I are going to do karaoke on Friday night, want to come along?" or something like that. It's a bit more direct. However, if silly comments are working for you, then go with it. I've never really tried that method.

What you have been doing is perfectly acceptable. I don't consider that giving a girl too much attention.

-Wolf

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How do you not give a girl much attention? I usually just ignore em whats your approach.

I'm not really sure what you're asking. Are you talking about in a relationship? Or just the start of a relationship? You're going to have to be more specific. I am in a serious long-term open relationship. I also have a small rotation of girls I date when my girlfriend is not around (i.e. weekdays). On top of that, I have friends to see and work to do and forum posts to write. I lead a pretty busy life.

Incidentally, it's fine to give a lot of attention to girls who treat you well. It rewards good behavior. I spend 24-48 hours of every week with my serious GF (most of my weekends). I don't really have TIME to pay too much attention to any other girls. Most other girls are FB's, so I only see them once a week on average (in accordance with the community established FB-rules: http://puarticles.blogspot.com/2008/01/ ... rules.html ).

In a nutshell, all girls start as FB's until they get promoted by being awesome. In other words, they start with one night a week and earn more of my time by treating me well. That's how I keep from giving girls too much attention before they've earned it.

-Wolf

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