Yesterday was one of my most embarrassing nights out in months.
I went out with my friends to hit a few local clubs to have some fun, practice the game in the mean time etc, and instead I was disappointment with the night and myself.
First we almost got into a fight, after my friend was trying to dance with some girls who were alone on the dance floor, but then turned out to be with 6 other guys who didn't like that fact. So they pushed my friend and I had to step in to stop things from escalating, sort of a mood killer. We changed venues, but things didnt really get better.
I had the worst approach anxiety in the longest time last night, i just didnt feel "it", every set that I was trying to approach I just rationalized (she's to fat, too busy, too tall, not a two set, dont like the shade of her make up), the only girl i approached I got into a fight with cuz i negged her too much, and after time passed and while i was trying to build myself to approach, i realized it was so late, there was nobody to approach anymore.
And i finally left disappointed in myself.

I need to figure how to deal with those things when they come, i think next time im gonna force myself to approach first set i see in the venue, just to break through. Any more ideas would be helpful.

Hi ncrave,

I get similar problems with approach anxiety as you do. But that's such a common sticking point. So I started reading up on how to get over it, and it's what you wrote in the last two lines of your post. Force yourself. You don't have to approach girls that you're interested in right away. Get a feel for the environment and the type of people there, proceed to find your safety set, then branch off from there.

With your "didn't feel 'it'" part (which I felt yesterday too), maybe you could try to adopt the mentality that you're here to learn, so just practice those routines and refine them. Also, you shouldn't feel disappointed in yourself. Go home and figure out what went wrong in your approaches, and aim to improve them next time. Style suggested being "self-correcting", that if a woman rejects you, it's always your fault - so find those bugs and delete them.

Good luck!

Hey styles

So i actually have been working on that problem recently with some really great results. As you said the most important thing is to force yourself, and i also used some other things to help me out -
I go into a set without caring about the outcome, think about it's just for practice as you mentioned, i think this was the biggest game changer
Next i have an opener/openers prepared, many times i said them stumbling cuz i didnt had them memorized cold, but hey nothing terrible happened im still here, and sets actually still went real well
And other extremely helpful thing is if you have somebody, friend, wing to push and motivate you, appeal to your pride so to say, works like magic at least for. And then you realize once you approach, anxiety is gone.

Then funny thing is after I did do many approaches, i dont really have approach anxiety, but it's more like an approach discomfort (probably just comes from our emotional programing) because i know ive done it before, i rationalized to myself since it has worked before, why wouldnt work now. So practice, practice, practice

Good luck man!