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Thing is, he wasn't just having fun. That's what I meant. I usually fuck around alot aswel, but at a point he was literally saying he wanted me to leave cause he wanted to get "solo" with her. In my opinion it's different playing around with the group and just turning into a personal pet/jester.
In the OP I said I didn't want to tell him to stop it cause I don't want to get any enemies nor to be a dick, especially with the kind of rapport I have with them. I don't have a problem with acting silly, but one thing is waaay different from the other.
well thats where frame battles come into play, and they take alot of socializing to get better at, because it is the guy who speaks his mind the easiest while keeping his cool who will hold the frame
the one who is putting in the least effort, but still expressing them selves without holding back
the bolded part is your problem here in my opinion, stop caring about getting approval from them, if he is tooling you, just speak your mind and let it flow,
don't mistake that for getting all super angry and challenging him to a fight, or having a full blown spaz attack,
just amuse yourself by tooling him, when he is tooling you, do it in a way that suites your personality, also it helps to get the girl to work with you, when guys are presenting these me and her frames, blow out his frame and challenge it
him:you should leave so me and hb can have some one on one solo time
you:you should suck my balls, so I can feel comfortable while you entertain the two of us, (then look at the hb and say, you want solo time with this guy? *like she would have to be crazy to say yes*)
but keep in mind, the second you start caring and it starts to bother you, and you get butthurt, is the second you start losing the frame and look like an ass, keep your cool, stay calm and in control of yourself and your emotions, you can say mean things, you just can't have an angry loss of emotional control behind the mean things you say, it comes from a place of self mastery, not reactive anger, you are to be doing this in a active way, not re-active