| four ideas for you to experiment with man,
-don't focus on the outer game stuff for a while
-open and just speak your mind directly, without fear of what she thinks, tell her what you want and show her (express) how you feel with your mood, actions, words and how you are around her, give her time to talk, don't be rushed to show her how good you are, just let her show you how good she is
-try to kill your energy down lower, if you are really high energy playful all over the place, kill it down, don't try to impress her, instead focus on just finding out stuff about her, chill out, relax, get to know her, tease her a bit, just be normal, you don't have to say or do anything special, just be you and be for real and honest that you are into her and want to get to know her, focus more on just connecting with a person in front of you and getting to know them, then just if I do XYZ I get the fucky fucky, YEAH... FUCKY FUCKY!!
-be observant about the situation, and when in doubt just talk about her, say something about her, ask questions about her, make comments about her, and if you feel like the convo is dieing, don't try to save it, just be silent, if she likes you she will try to help you maintain the convo and she will break the silence and start talking (good eye contact helps with this), take that as your que to re-direct the conversation into her talking about things that are relevant to your goals (does she possess qualities you like in a girlfriend?, does she do shit you like to do?, does she share the same sexual views as you do?)
if you can do all that and you are comfortable with approaching, just start actually spending time meeting women, and actually screen them out, if a girl gives you shit and won't participate in a convo, onto the next one, if a girl seems emotionally boring and does not match up with a girl that you could hang out with (personality wise) be honest with her, and next her
like seriously be 100% honest, ''I really like the way you look, and I could totally see myself hooking up with you, but you just don't seem like the kind of girl I would date, you can come back to my place and we could just watch a movie and see what happens,who knows maybe we could share other interests together but there is only one way to find out, how bout it?''
even with all the no's it does not really matter, you can just move onto the next girl and stop wasting all this time on a girl who is not interested and go find one that is, if you are screening and going through all the effort to find girlsfriends, you might as well just be straight up honest with them, no pickup routines or anything, use that for practise improving the social skills for fun, but just shift back and fourth try to just be real and develope some real inner confidence that comes from yourself and not from a fake self, just be normal (what ever that is for you)
what ever you do, make it 100% real, if you think you can tell when something is off and person is putting on an act to impress you, or is lieing or is a poser, girls have that better then you x100, just be real and go for what you want, and relax more while doing it and have fun
GOOD LUCK
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