Hey

Basically im in an interesting situation that has a likelihood of repeating itself so i thought i'd take the time to try and figure it out.

Seeing this girl SPAM. We have been friends for a long time but she was in a relationship and i was sleeping around (none of her direct friends or anyone she talks to). Basically ive always told her that i do not want to get into a relationship the whole way through us knowing each other. We have NOT had sex. She lives far away and comes to stay every 2 weeks for about 3-4 days. When she stays she sleeps in the same bed and we just make out and tease all night. Admittedly i would have sex with her (i don't show this in any way, but i'm sure her she thinks she is in control of this as most women usually do). Basically my game plan was to keep playing my game (not needy, show i have other women, fun, DHV's, teasing, chuck in a bit of emotion, comfort, kino escalation) and eventually she will crack. Anyway 3 days ago she stayed she cracked and wanted to have sex but i said NO. I thought this would be the best thing to do (any thoughts?).

Today she said that she can't stay with me anymore cos she will get close to me and doesn't think its wise. She then went on to say that she doesnt like getting with people who are getting with other people (because we were friends before she knows this). Additional info: Is religious, fell for someone and was hurt before me, lives 5 hours away

I thought this was sort of knee jerk and emotional bluff so said that she was right but still communicated i liked her and had feelings for her.

Now has anyone had experience of these types of situations? My interpretation has 3 options.

1. She wants a relationship.
2. She wants me to at least stop seeing other girls.
3. She wants to just be friends.

I can't just committ when she wants me to can I, thats too easy? So does anyone know anyway to smooth this over so i can keep the game plan rolling? Is that wrong? Its not like im never gonna get in a relationship i just dont know yet and want freedom.

Lol anyway any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

No, you WANT a relationship (at least a sexual one).. you just don't want to be monogamous.

Anyway, why are you wasting time with this when the girl lives 5 hours away? Just hold your ground.. it would be rather stupid to promise monogamy to this one.

-Wolf