Fact: Me not approaching makes me a huge pussy.

It's honestly my one sticking point, and it's probably the dumbest, most cowardly sticking point you could possibly have. It keeps happening to me. I wait too long to approach, and then i'm just in my heard the whole night and get drunk and shoot the shit with my buddies (who don't approach at all, but whatever that's just them). It pisses me off so much because i'm a semi "good looking" guy, and also i am pretty good at talking, escalating, all that other crap. It's merely getting me into a set that's hard. AND, it's only the first one. After the first one, i just about always say, wow, that wasn't bad, let's do more.

I don't even need advice here (i think) i just want to point out that i'm a fucking pussy for this. It's bullshit on my part. The worst thing is how hard i am on myself. The entire next day i beat myself up/ am depressed and anxious, and just not in a good mood because i knew i didn't do what i am fully capable of doing.

I still get girls once in a while, but not what i am capable of getting. I would to settle down with a girl and see where it goes, but all the ones i get are just not there. Alright done venting, thanks for listening.

Approach anxiety.

Solution: Approach the first girl of the day/night.

This gets you out of your head and into the action.

Not easy, but easier than the regret you feel otherwise.

And you're not a pussy, you're normal. Do the above and watch the regret vanish.

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Who are you? Who do you want to be?
What are you doing? What do you want to do?
What are your values? Are you living in line with them?

Just some important questions to ask yourself.
Look, we all suffer from inaction. It happens, but it's not excusable. If you are writing here, it means there must be some kind of pain you are suffering from. You might not feel that strongly, and you're probably laughing it off right now (I can tell by the way you claim to not want advise). Either way, something is tugging at your character. Something in your gut is telling you you are living against your very nature.

Are you a man who takes what he wants? If so, why do you waste your time sitting with your friends and drinking? Where is your discipline? Where is your drive for greatness?

Just a few things to think about.

Love
Mack

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Who are you? Who do you want to be?
What are you doing? What do you want to do?
What are your values? Are you living in line with them?

Just some important questions to ask yourself.
Look, we all suffer from inaction. It happens, but it's not excusable. If you are writing here, it means there must be some kind of pain you are suffering from. You might not feel that strongly, and you're probably laughing it off right now (I can tell by the way you claim to not want advise). Either way, something is tugging at your character. Something in your gut is telling you you are living against your very nature.

Are you a man who takes what he wants? If so, why do you waste your time sitting with your friends and drinking? Where is your discipline? Where is your drive for greatness?

Just a few things to think about.

Love
Mack[/quote]

Very good post Mack. This is the same situation im in. Reading that really made me think about who I want to be in life and how I want to live it.

Thanks!

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As a girl I want to assure you that we WANT semi good looking/ good looking or even just charismatic and interesting men to talk to us. If we see you just hanging around drinking with your friends we just think you're not interested in meeting new people or that you are taken OR worse that you're more interested in alcohol than us.


As an ex-lap dancer, I get your fears of approach. Good looking punters or high value ones would TERRIFY me, I would psyche myself out, question my value: was I was thin enough?, good looking enough?,interesting enough? blah blah. Don't give yourself time to think, just focus on being positive, try and not think about the outcome if she tells you to fuck off or ignores you then shes probably negative anyway. Focussing on my alias or character also helped me make the approach in the club as it allowed me to step outside of my own insecurities.

I guess you guys are both blessed and cursed with being the ones that are supposed to approach. I struggle as a woman in everyday life to sometimes have the confidence to give the green light for men I like the look of to approach me so I guess we are kind of in the same boat x

Who are you? Who do you want to be?
What are you doing? What do you want to do?
What are your values? Are you living in line with them?

Just some important questions to ask yourself.
Look, we all suffer from inaction. It happens, but it's not excusable. If you are writing here, it means there must be some kind of pain you are suffering from. You might not feel that strongly, and you're probably laughing it off right now (I can tell by the way you claim to not want advise). Either way, something is tugging at your character. Something in your gut is telling you you are living against your very nature.

Are you a man who takes what he wants? If so, why do you waste your time sitting with your friends and drinking? Where is your discipline? Where is your drive for greatness?

Just a few things to think about.

Love
Mack[/quote]

Very good post Mack. This is the same situation im in. Reading that really made me think about who I want to be in life and how I want to live it.

Thanks![/quote]

Good day my friend

I'm glad I could help. Don't think of it as being in a rut. It is a period all men must go through in order to become men. Those who don't end up having mid-life crises, not knowing who they are.

Take time away from external influence, don't waste time reading other people's opinions on the path you must take - that includes me by the way. You are the captain of your destiny and everything you need to know, you already do. It's time to rediscover it.

You've been asleep too long

Love
Mack

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