i met this girl 5 months ago through a friend and i liked her the first time i met her. i havent got anything up my sleeves to game her. never had. she wished me happy birthday a few months on FB and we started chatting more then. got her number and i finally found the balls to ask her out. we went out 2 weeks ago for dinner. picked her up and i knew i would have problems being confident as she looked amazing.beyond words. she was way more confident during dinner and there were some awkward silences coming from me. sent her back after dinner. texted her to ask if she got home safe and told her that she looked amazing.( too shy to tell her to her face)

txted her day after as well. but she sounded busy / not interesred so i just said that i shldnt disturb you. later that day she txted me saying that she really had a nice time that night and she thinks that im a cool guy and all. but she prefers that we hang as friends for now.

its like she read my mind. because our texts were pretty neutral. and i dont think there was any flirting involved too.

help.

i might have been texting her too much ? does she think that im too much for mer ?

go meet new girls, try to improve your confidence, give them compliments, show interest in them sexually, if you want to be more then friends, you have to be someone who shows he is interested in more then just friends, rejections will happen, there is no way around them, no matter what you do, no matter what you look like, no matter how rich you are, no matter how popular you are, if you actively try to pick up women, you will be rejected, even brad pitt and george cloney would find them selves in situations where they would be rejected, it is no big deal, get used to the fact that it doesn't matter and most girls do it in the nicest way they can possible, just meet more girls, and go through as many no's as it takes to get a yes, the more you get out there and take risks and make yourself uncomfortable, the easier it will get and eventually the risks don't even seem like risks and it all starts to make sense

Yonuh you need to read "Mode one" by Alan Roger Currie big time. What pumpington said isn't bad advice but it's not really going to help you either. You simply have the wrong mind set.

Yonuh based off what you'ver written here you're doomed to repeat the same process over and over again. If You were mode one you wouldn't even be worried about trying to find the right things to say to a girl you'd just say it. And you would have found out before the dinner date was even made whether she was interested or not.

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On your game itself:

Try to stay away from dinner (and going to the movies for that matter) for the first date.

The problem with dinner and movies is that if it doesn't turn out that well, you can't just bail during main course. Or halfway a movie.

Go get drinks, take a walk in the park, whatever.



And you probably didn't text her too much. You just screwed up the date itself by not flirting enough and not being assertive. You got the 'let's just be friends' text which means it's game over.

Like the guys before me said, work on your inner game. Confidence is attractive.

I know you probably still want her but I think you should let her go. For now. You can try to game her again later (if you still want to) but that will only work if you've clearly upgraded your life. Otherwise you'll still be 'that guy from facebook with whom she had an awkward date'.

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