Hey everybody, i usually dont post here too much but i do read and learn a lot from the posts in the forum which by the way has helped me a lot on different situations and all that and i would like to say thanks in advance for any advice given to me in this topic.
Now let;s get to business, basically my problem right now is that the last 3 girls i've been really interested into have told me the LJBF bullshit, here is a lil field report on each one of them and tell me what u guys think
Girl number one let;s just call her the Nurse.
A girl that one of my best friends introduce me to, so basically my friend told her about me and all that stuff so she then adds me on facebook, we start talking she comes over to miami, when she gets here we went out the first time me and 2 other friends, when to a place with live latin music playing, we kept ordering and getting drunk as hell, one of the main reasons i started getting attracted to this girl was that she is a really smart girl, and the second thing is that she can hold her liquor, we went all night at the same pace.
Anyways we kept having fun and all, then bounced to another place to dance a little bit. anyways at the end ran a little routine and of course the cube that never fails, there was instant chemistry with her.
The only reason i didn't make a move on her was that i had just recovered from 3 girls that i was dating that went a lil psycho on me ( Meaning, one keyed my car, another one had cut her wrists, and the third one went to my job and slapped me up making a little drama over there) so i thought at the moment that i should just stay away from girls for a lil bit.
Only problem is that she kept on texting and calling then we went out again to what i believe is one of the best date i've ever had, first i took her to this place
http://florida-keys-vacation-rental-oce ... %20012.JPG which has a really romantic story besides of the smartness of the man who created the garden, afterwards we went to applebees just to have some drinks until around 11pm, then i took her to this hotel called the delano in miami beach, ( which i like because it has a patio where you can sit relax and have a nice conversation, then a pool area with an outside bar and great djs playing at night, and if you want then you can go inside to the club of the hotel.
we stayed there until about 3 in the morning what really surprised me is that she was not even tipsy even though we were drinking all night, then we bounced to the clevelander, another hotel with a nice outside club in it, at the time when we arrived there was nobody in the dance floor so we just went ther, started dancing then another group of 4 joined us, by the way they were really good dancers
after a drunk 50 year old woman joined us dancing " i got a feeling" with a weird 80's choreography that had us cracking up, anyways more people started to join us then we were just a huge circle in the dancefloor, another russian beautiful girl pulls me up and starts dancing, i grabbed the Nurse and then this girl pulls her bra down and grind all upon us, i was in the middle with the Nurse in the back and the russian girl in front, we continued to have fun until it got a lil more crazy and some people started jumping on the pool then they kicked us out lol.
we then went to the beach at about 5 in the morning, we were walking and found some girls on the beach that just started talking and we had a few beers more, which one of the girls offered to have a threesome if we wanted, but i honestly din't feel like it then we left and the Nurse wanted some breakfast so we went to dennys and left her home at around 9 in the morning.
Just to let you guys know and i know you guys are gonna question my manhood when i tell you that i did not make a move on her all night at all, i was honestly concentrated in having fun.
Anyways she then calls me at 10 in the morning which i did not reply cause i was asleep of course, she left a message saying thanks for the most amazong night of her life. however i had a lot of work so i couldnt reply until 2 days later so i asked her to meet up for dinner afterwork, we met but by this time i had realized that i was already attracted to her so i told her how i felt, her response was that she had a boyfriend when she came down, but that she didn't have one anymore today, although she wouldnt like to do anything with me because it would completely break some trust and that she still had some feelings for him due to the fact that it was a 3 year relationship. i told her it was cool and change the subject and have some fun. i dropped her home and once again said thank you for an amazing night.
she then called the next day and left some messages but i had lost my phone, then since she couldnt contact me she contacted my friend and arrange for all of us to get together, i didn;t know she was going until i got there so we kept on talking and having some fun i did not bring the subject or anything again ( im really good at pretending nothing happened) we ended up again until 6 in the morning and i left her home, then i said good bye because she was going back home the next day.
i could tell she wanted to stay more time with me but for some reason i was not up for it so i kissed her on the cheek and said good morning to her.
I'm honestly glad though that i know for sure she was happy every time we went out.
Second girl
Lets call her Jenny
I met her at work, since the moment i saw her i really liked her, it was her first day at work and all that so i went up to her and told her " hi you have the most beautiful eyes that i have seen in a while ( she just smiled), but dont get me wrong its not your eyes or the color of your eyes but what you project with them"
Her: what do you mean?
Me: yeah its that little shine on them that says i might have had a lot of problems but look at me im happy and i can make you happy ( i know cheesy as fuck but i ment it though) then somebody called me and i told her nice meeting you and walk away.
next day she gave me her phone number but for some other work stuff and school i couldnt call so she got my phone number from one of my friends,
she called a couple of times, next day we met went to the beach until about 4 in the morning, then we came back to my house, started making out but she then stopped and told me that she had a boyfriend , messed up thing is that he was a cop.
i asked her if she wanted to continue she then said that it didnt feel right so i told her ok.
aftyerwards we were talking every night for about a week but i realized that i was getting attached to her so i told her to stop calling or texting. of course she did not comply, and got upset texting me and when i wouldnt respond she would continue texting and stuf and saying some stuff to my friends, but the reason was that she had already told me that we could not be more than friends but that she still enjoy talking and being with me.
I honestly dont like to be somebody sloppy seconds so i decided to stop completely afterwards.
after about a month i saw her again, well she came to the new place i am working and told me that she was single, i told her ok that's cool enjoy being single is better off like that, we continue talking and of course i still liked her, but i did not say it.
she gave me her phone number and told me to call her.
i got transfered again to another location so she could not find me and i didn't want to fall into her again so i just did not call her. she then went to one of my friends, and ask him for my phone number ( reason is that i had to change my number about 3 times due to some issues) so it was one that was disconected, she then went to another friend and it was another number not working, so she finally got my home phone number and then got my number from work so she called me over there and asked me to go out on saturday, we went out but we were supposed to go with some other friends,
so for some reason none of my friends went and it was only her over there.
we started talking and having some fun, also catching up for all that time, i got a lil drunk and all that so i told her that if she wanted to try and be more than friends,
she just said, im sorry but i cant see you as anything else but a friend, i asked her why and she said that it was because she couldnt trust me. ( funny thing is that the server that was on our table used to be a bartender about 4 months before, and i had hooked up with her, so as soon as she got to our table she just asked her what she wanted and told me straight up to come back and play another game on her, which by the way she has pretty good memory cause i didnt even had to ask her and she brought me my blue long island iced tea)
i called it a night afterwards and told her that it was ok and that i wasnt gonna dissapear like last time, and that she could call me any time. she said thanks and that i was one of the best man she ever met, in any aspect but that for some reason she could not see me as anything more than a friend although she was really sexually attracted to me.
so basically my main question is what is it that makes you fall into the friends zone and how to avoid it.
If you read the entire post i really appreciate it and hope that it was a little entertaining.
CHAT