I believe this belongs here because it is an across the board problem for me. With every fuckin girl. You'd think I would have this sorted by now, but sorry guys I don't.

I know every case is different, but I think what I'm concerned about is coming off needy.

I have 3 2nd dates lined up now. As I type this, the only contact I've had with each of these chicks post-1st date is brief texts setting up the logistics for the 2nd date. No flirting (which happened a lot before 1st date).

So do you call a girl and chat her up at all if you have a date coming in a few days? Do you text at all? It just feels a little needy to me but I don't know.

And as a sub-sticking point related to this...my buddies (who are not into game) tell me to send a text the day of saying 'looking forward to 7pm' or whatever. yay or nay?

Thanks in advance.

Goddam this is one of my biggest sticking points too.

At times when she is of same value Im usually good enough to have her message me in a positive frame in the days after D1 so D2 isnt a major challenge...

BUT

If shes a hottee I do often have trouble knowing how to approach the next date.
I think the issue is this: not maintaining enough buying temp after D1.

Couple of weeks back I had a good (I thought) date with an 8+ off the net, great rapport by email leading up to the night and farely good convo during it. I ended with a casual, non-needy 'ok so you wanna get together again in a few days time?' she said yes then flaked for good a few days later.

My theory: I was too predictable like all the other guys out there and left no feeling in her of 'does he like me?' after D1. The answer was far too obvious. I should have just let her go and then called say 3 days later or something, thereby maintaining buying temp.

I am desperate to hear tips in this area of game.

Hmm I've left feelings like that in girls in the past and it caused them to think I didn't like them and I lost them because I was so worried about that in the past. So this is my theory. It is better to err on the side of the girl thinking you like them rather than not because if they like you and they think you don't like them, you're screwed. And if they think you like them too, then you're good.
If they don't like you, you're fucked either way, so who cares.