Hey all, looking for some discussion on some points that I have been sticking on,

Point number one, is seeking other peoples approval. I find this is one of the hardest points for myself to overcome. My ego is frail, and blown up, I find when people challenge it, I continuously react and try to protect it. I qualify myself and randomly lie sometimes in order to hide insecurities. Most likely it is this method of protection that projects them instead. I find when I do not value or respect a person, there opinion of me is almost of no weight, these same problems do not exist and their attempts to manipulate me or challenge my ego are to no avail. The problem with this is, when ever I feel emotionally attached/invested I feel as if I must try to think things through from a more analytical perspective. Every thing I do is calculated to give off the impression they do not hold influence over me when they do, and I still slip up constantly, revealing this and seeking approval. I need to be able to define my reality more strongly, and have a stronger sense of self and identity, but I find it difficult to detach from the situations, and assert my own frame without conforming to others.

The things I have been attempting to combat this is meditation, affirmations (this goes the same for emotional reactivity)


The second point that I have been having conflicting ideas on is compliance testing and physical escalation. All of my success up until now, has come from mutual escalations. Sometimes I have been really aggressive and I did not end up laid where as it has still left me wondering. I have never gotten a solid, what the fuck are you doing, or a harsh reply. It gets to the point where at most it is a no, a lite brushing away of my hand or you are such a pervert, or something along those lines. It leaves me questioning, how can you tell if it is just resistance, or if it is truly rejection, I dare not cross the line into DATE-RAPE VILLE, just to find out what I can get away with. Any perspective from experience on this issue would be appreciated.

The third point is emotional control. I find due to ego once again, I easily become reactive, I know how to play indifference but I am positive that it is something that becomes sub-communicated, I want to have some perspective on how to control my emotional state better, and not allow other peoples influences effect my reality.


Any perspective/ideas on my weaknesses would be appreciated so that I could make progress.


FINALLY, I want to touch on one strong point as well. If there is one thing that I do in my opinion, it is direct open. I have had some ideas, on this but I was wondering how do I make a large impact that would hold more emotional weight from my current. I can hold BURNING strong eye contact from almost a mile away and approach head on with no hesitation, I am comfortable commanding a stop, I am comfortable cutting in front of girls, and declaring my interest, I usually pre-frame. But at some points, the interaction can mildly stale out, and I can get confused/negative reactions.

reactions such as, ARE YOU HIGH?/ARE YOU DRUNK?/ARE YOU TRYING TO IMPRESS YOUR FRIENDS?/DO YOU SAY THIS TO ALL THE GIRLS?/SO YOU ARE JUST APPROACHING RANDOM GIRLS?,

usually depending on the moment and how my nerves are acting (how warmed up I am), I will just agree with them, think in my head *are you retarded* most likely sub-communicating this with a look, and just say, NO, just nervous or some other re-direct. Is there something I could do that would be a more effective strategy in dealing with this issue?

also alot of girls try to give excuses why they can not, stay in the interaction, but will give their numbers, how can I stall them, or should I just walk with them, I know this is usually true that they are busy during the daytime, so far my strategy is just, time constraint.

THANK YOU FOR THE INPUT!!