first time dating/hanging out. laughs are abundant. we're sitting in my car and i notice how cute she looks tonight. the time feels right, i think to myself "i should kiss her", "im gonna kiss her", "wait, what should i say", "how should i say it", "should i even say anything" and then i get more and more anxious and my charm starts fading, as does my self-esteem. at that moment i begin coming off as boring. i can see in her eyes that she wants to be mine. she ends up going home dissapointed because i just couldn't be the man. this always happens with girls i really like and care about. i have this big fear of rejection. it stems from my childhood, every girl i've really cared about or loved never feels the same for me. how can i overcome this fear?

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At the end of the day you need to ask yourself, am I a sheep or a wolf?

Think of the 3 second rule. Don't think too long before you kiss, it will make you nervous, and potentially, her too. Simply talk smoothly and act normal. Don't dwell on it too much. Do the triangular look; Look in her eyes and then her lips and smile in a friendly way.

I will be honest, my first array of KC's were intense. Not so much because I had control, but enough that my heart was beating faster. Simply shove away any negative talks of self sabotage and seek to do it all naturale. The tip is to focus less on your anxiety problem and why you can't proceed. Just go along with it and do it! But make sure you have enough stuff with the girl before kissing her. You know they want you. Girls like confidence.

I posted a thread in the Field report about KC in Brasil last week. It's all about confidence!

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"If you don't succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried."

I can relate to everything you said!

Okay what you have to do is reframe the kiss! If she doesn't kisses you and moves away you kiss her cheek and you have to FUCKING REALIZE that if a girl goes with you in a day two she is down to kiss you! Even if she fucking moves you were fucking MAN enough to fucking go for IT! She can forgive you for being a little bet uncalibrated but she won't forgive you for being a little bitch and not going for IT!!!

How you fucking do it!
You keep talking but slow everything down. Speak slowly. Use Pauses. Maintain good eye contact. A little bet of laughter into the conversation. Look at her lips. And then kino her (either get her arm slowly or her waist and move in for the kiss!

This girl moved her whole head around so I kissed her hair but later on she was the one that kissed me! You have to FUCKIGN REALIZE that if you don't FUCKING do it you're seem as a FUCKING PUSSY! You're a man express yourself! You need to have build comfort and been flirting or just being really sexual in your dance if you dancing! But its all down to KINOING! If shes comfortable letting you touch her arm then its good!

If the fear gets in, to do it ANYWAYS!!! Just do it even if it is done bad! You'll learn and you do it great the next time!

Sums it all up. Control the frame.

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"If you don't succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried."

I never say anything when going for the kiss. I often don't even look at her lips. I just look into her eyes, fix her eyes with mine. If she won't look away I go for the kiss.

Sometimes she turns her head away to evade the kiss. I just pull back a bit and keep looking into her eyes and smile, even laugh a bit (in a you-are-so-cute way).
If this happens, I lay all my cards on the table and say something like "I like you and I am not ashamed of it. I am a man and can appreciate a beauty when I see it and am not going to appologize for what I am and what I want in my life. "

Even girls with boyfriends who "rejected" my attempt were genuinely stunned by my honesty. Some even expressed that they wanted to see me again.

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Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.

What i tell most people that are scared about giving the kiss is advice from when i was still in grammar school and i got my first kiss. I was about to leave i was saying good bye to a girl we had that little moment where i knew she was interested so i thought to myself "i'm just going to kiss her on the cheek... if she turns her head to kiss me then i'm golden".

By telling yourself that, you will be more relaxed when you go for the approach because it is an innocent "kiss on the cheek". But as I said this is more of a "goodbye" approach rather than in the middle of conversation or what have you.

Never ask for permission nothing turns a girl off more than ASKING her what she wants. Girls WANT you to take charge, nothing is more passionate/exciting than a spur of the moment kiss for them. I have always been a fan of a big kiss plant small little kisses followed by a switching of "side". Pull back a bit and look at her eyes as she will go after you for more kissing action. It ALWAYS works.

Or you could simply say "I'm going to kiss you". Then kiss her. Don't give her time to think, but enough to let her hear your words.