Ok this is something I always do, no matter where or when and who the girl could be.
When I see the girl I really like (might be the way she dresses, the look on her face, the way she giggles with her friends, etc); I start making assumptions about how high in the pedestal she is and how low I am on the other side.

What I mean is that, every time I talk to this girls I always part from the point where she can`t be reached by a guy like me, so I treat her as a one chid chad talk in my life and thats all.

By doing this Im insulting both my intelligence and her`s, couse I know she`s not talking out of boredom, I know she might be a bit interested or at least open to what this guy has to say.

My lack of self steem makes me insult, mistreat others and very often to be misunderstood about what I want to say.

Like I said, this happens to me every time I talk to/ interact with the girl that I`d really like to kiss/ lay/ be in a ltr with.

I know this is slowing my game down as shit, but now I come to realize that it isn`t just me the one who gets a downside of this shit, it`s the other person too who wastes time and effort on talking to a guy that wont take another step out of shyness or how much of a pussy he is.

I know this is an inner game issue, but still I`d like you to share your mindset if you ever were where I`m standing right now and describe to me how you overcomed this.

Couse honestly: I take a really long time for a kiss, even more for a lay and this isn`t getting me anywhere but where I`m already at. Feel like driving in circles and it`s frustrating.

I think that if I focus more on giving the time of her life to the girl rather than just focusing on myself I`d have good responses, still there is something fucked up in my mind that always thinks the worst.

I can`t imagine myself holding hands with the girl I really desire, shit, not even kissing her.
I figure having this mindset from the very start won`t get me too far, right?

Bond.

Stop thinking how high she is and how low you are. Go in thinking you're on the same level.