Now I'm asking for help, one of my personal problems with women.

I can't keep women's interested for very long.

I either don't pay enough attention to them, and they stop chasing, or I lose them because they stop chasing and start expecting me to chase, as if I was suddenly going to drop all my standards and say "Oh wait, now suddenly I'm a chaser! I'm coming baby!!!!"

Some of these girls will talk to me every day, and than suddenly it feels like they believe what's working is wrong, and they wants to change the rules. But why have rules if I'm gonna change them?

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not super strict, sometimes I do message first or ask how they are doing, I aint some "You MUST chase me" kind of control freak, it's hypocritcal to do so. Sometimes I even like to express my passion and chase for the drive of it, but I usually stop.

I honestly believe women are brainwashed to believe that unless I am the one chasing and trying to win her approval, I am not worth their time, and that makes me wonder, do guys really have this mindframe brainwashed in women of the 21st century???

It's so hard, because I simply do not have any interest or need to chase, and I have made them all aware of this standard. But these girls are not getting that.

When I talked to guys or girl friends about it, they say "girls don't chase, they never do, no girl is ever going to chase any man, it's a shitty world, but women got men by the balls, you either play their rules, get used to the hand"

Maybe I'm communicating "Yes, I will start dropping my standards for you" without even realizing, but I could not even begin to understand how because I have dumped so many women for this exact reason, I can't help it they don't believe me, and it will always suck.

Because in the long run, dumping so many women feels no different than being dumped by so many women, the entire thing just feels like a kick in the ass.