| Well Kowalsky,Im too tired to go through the,"what to do".
So Im just going to tell you what you did wrong(though it's subtle).
It all comes down to how you framed it.
You did frame it right,but you should've been a bit more free about it:
"Hey,Im going out to have fun tonight at...,if you're up for it,meet me there(or come long).
That subtle shift subcommunicate to her that:
1)you going out isnt relying on her(you're going out even if she doesnt tag long)
2)You can have fun lone or with others.
If you frame it as though you're not asking her,she'll be with it.
By adding "each other",it's pressuming too much:pressuming that she'd want to hang out.
Prssumption is great in pick-up(Im for it),but not when it comes to "each other" hanging out.
So next time,you should frame it like this:"Hey,Im going out to a cool bar called ***,gonna have plenty fun.Since your night is boring,feel free to meet me there".
You're assuming her night is boring(cool),but not assuming she want to come along.
Plus,leave assumptions & pressumptions for face-to-face,isolations,etc.
When you'r there with a girl(in seduction phase),you can say,"I know you wanna fuck me;I can see it in your eyes(while strokin her fingers)".
Assume that to her over the phone(before you even get through attraction phase),it's all over!!!
Point is,when you assume things to the target over the phone,she's more likely to reject and shit test you since you're not there.
Face to face-less shit tests,games,flakes & rejections.
I used to go through the same shit year ago where I assumed the girl would want to meet up.
Then after reading an online-artice by a dating coach(I think it was Thundercat)about flakes.
One Saturday night,I sent 5 group text to 5 girl(who'd flaked on me week before)saying,"Hey,Im going to the Coast Night Club tonight to have massive fun with friends-wow!!!
Believe me,4 out of the 5 girls showed up at the same club(lol)!!!
I was fuckin shocced(lol)!!!
These same girls stood me up for over 5 weeks of # closing them.
Sinc I changed my approach(via text)and apppear to not give a shit if they meet up,they became more willing.
Note:I always say to them(or in the text)that Im going ou with "friends".
Girls rarely go out alone(security issues),so by mentioning "Friends",it gives them the OK to bring their girl friends also(to feel more comfort).
Even though I club alone,I mention my friends just to make the girl feel more safe to tag along with her friends(which she was going to do anyway).
Nothing worst to a woman than the thought of meeting a could-be-weirdo or stalker somewhere.
Weirdos & stalkers dont usually have a social group,so telling her you'll be having fun with friends and she should come along(with a friend maybe),she would automatically assume that you're a fun-social get-along-guy and not fucking psycho who may kill her(lol).
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