This is something I find myself over analyzing on regular basis.

What do you text a girl the next day if you met her when she was drunk?

I've tried different things and everything seems to have about 50% success rate with keeping a girl's interest. I'm a huge University with a huge greek life. How do I differentiate myself from all the other dudes she met last night in my text message.

This is what I would do.

Ring her.

Shows you have balls and will set you apart from every other chump who is too scared. If she doesn't answer (and this might happen) you have a couple of options. Try again maybe one more time but DON'T KEEP RINGING HER TO TRY AND GET HOLD OF HER AS IT'S NEEDY.

I've never left an answerphone message so I can't offer advice on that, but that's an option.

If she doesn't answer, then wait maybe a day then send her a text saying something like 'we need to hang out because you seemed fun and I want to get to know you'. Just something confident and again NOT NEEDY, like 'oh hey, it's Sidney from the other night, and I was wondering if you wanted to hang out some time'. EG I called a German girl i number closed once, and after no answer sent her a text saying 'I need some help with my German. When can you give it to me?' She texted me telling me to come out the next night.

If you don't get a reply, let it go and go and get more girls numbers but after building more attraction first. If you have something in common when you meet like 'oh wow, you like chinese food too, we should get some together some time' then it will make following up much easier and decrease your flake rate. (in my above example, I'd already set the this up by telling her i am learning german).

If you DO get hold of her on the phone just continue being the fun guy you were when you met her. (you were, right?) Have a little chat and ask how she is. Be happy and confident and enjoy talking to her.
Casually drop something like 'you seemed cool, so I thought we should grab coffee sometime' into the conversation. She'll say 'yeah'. In doing this, you are setting the tone that she is lucky that you are considering meeting her. Then arrange when. I would say something like 'Hmmmm, ok well, I'm busy tomorrow, and the next day, but how about X'.

Anyway, this is all getting a bit too much of a step by step guide. That's not the point.
The point is to
call her,
be fun
appear like you have an active social life (it's even better if you actually do)
Not make it a big thing or worry about it.

If you enjoy the interaction and you don't get the day 2 - don't sweat it because she was fun to talk to anyway. (You could even tell her that if you.

Think about it and why you would do each of the things I've mentioned.


Hope that helps.

thank you that was very helpful!

a few more things though:
if shes drunk the night we meet does that change your phone call approach? thats where i've been a little hung up and why I've been going with the texts. (some of these girls i've even made out with)

And yes building that attraction the night before is critical but sometimes my number closes are rushed because her friends are dragging her somewhere else or i have to run off.

for those specific situations do you have any other input on the phone/text game?

"who was that cute guy you were talking to you last night? "

love it! thats perfect.

While calling has it's benefits- I tend to text first to gage how invested the girl is. I do this by sending a non needy low investment text message about something random, funny. Perhaps something I teased her about- etc.

After a few conversations through text I'll go for the call, and set up the date. However, I really recommend trying to set up a date and then exchange numbers. It works so well for building investment, and actually having a girl remember you.

The whole reason why I feel the low investment texts work is that in reality you want to avoid her saying no. When a girl ignores a text message- she is subconsciously saying no to something very small- as if she were saying no to a phone call- or not calling you back- that's a bigger no. When she answers your text she is subconsciously said yes- and when she answers numerous texts you're building momentum and it's easier to rationalize answering a phone call cause she's comfortable communicating with you.

Why go all in when she has little or no investment? Unless I've made a killer impression and the two of us hit it off, I like to start off small.

Hope that helps.

i completely agree. of course this is all based on how involved the initial meeting was...

If you have the number (and its real), text her later on that night and say "Nice meeting you"

Don't add anything extra.

She will reply or she won't. Either way, you exist within her phone now.

If she was drunk, she will review everything from that night that was saved in her phone (your number and other numbers she received from other guys) the next day.

You should WAIT a few days (not too long...and definitely not out of fear) and then call her.

You can lightly review your interaction within those first few minutes in order to remind her of how dope of a guy you were

Compliment her on what she wore that night, her smile and other little things.

Your memory will smooth over any negative reservations she has.

Also...maintain bass in your voice on the phone call and keep your mouth away from the receiver.

Women do not want to talk to Mickey Mouse.

The vibration of your voice will soothe her.

Be brave.

Don't know if you guys have seen this or not but the guys who do the pickup podcast have released The Txt Book. I personally haven't read it yet but it might help you out. Here's the address: http://howtotextgirls.com/