Well I kind of disagree with the whole no alcohol thing. It's a good thing for a club game, to have a no alcohol policy because we all know it can go out of hand. But as far as girl coming to your place I don't think it's a good idea to not drink anything or to drink nonalcohol things. First of all good wine is a very good choice, you're not drinking beer wich is more of a party drink, and you're not drinking strong alcohol.
I'm guessing shes a young woman and not a girl any more. And I think women like that kind of stuff. If you know she drinks wine, you should after a couple of minutes of talking, you say:" I'll get us somethin' to drink". Than bring two wine glasses bring them to the table and bring a bottle of closed wine and a bottle of closed water (with or without CO2...i prefer with)- and if it's a bottle of red wine you should wrap a white serviette (napkin) around, to catch the drops. Than you pour just a bit under half of glass (and be shure to pour into her glass first-if she will not drink wine she'll tell you). Water will give her a sense of option and safety ("you're not there to get her drunk" safety)
I think that wine really gives a feeling classyness and movie romance. And your small portions will tell her that you're not trying to get her drunk. And if she asks for more you can tease her :"are you trying to get us drunk

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