Hi guys,

Since this is my first post I am happy to tell you all that appreciate all the ideas you bring to these forums. Some of them made my life a little bit easier

The situation I am in is standart to my mind. I like the girl. She has a boyfriend (pretty serious relationship - more than 3 years together and allways go to each others families during weekends or holidays). We are in touch with this girl for 2 months. At first did not like her much so it was more of "hi" each day we met (we work near by). But bit after bit i felt that she's a nice girl and i like her more and more. So i putted my morality aside and started to try to steal her to put it frankly.

Dont want to talk about a morality of this because I do LIKE HER.
Right now we meet 2-3 times a week. We kiss. But we did not had sex. One time we were at my home but she putted last minute ressitence.

I like to meet her and until this day I never felt really bad that she meets the other man. (ok a little bad ).

At the moment i try to look at this seriously. I want her as my girlfriend and i want her to leave the other guy. I did not told this directly to her, because i do feel that it'll put too much stress on her. I see that sometimes she doesn't know what to do, and it's not only a matter of me alone, she has a familly, friends and long relatioships history with this man. All that to my mind affects the decision. (maybe I am wrong??)

So how to play it out? Be calm and see where we'll get. But that's a bit of gamble...
Or put a bit of pressure on her?
Please give me your suggestions guys, how to make her choose more quickly.

I know it's a complex question but I really appreciate your help.

Ok so let me try to understand this... You like a girl you work with? she has a long term boyfriend of about 3 years? you've passionately kissed her but havent had sex with her?
use boyfriend destroyers on her... from my experience its a lot easier to get with a woman if she's been with her BF for longer then 1 year...

but one last thing... why would you want to be with a girl who is willing to cheat on her boyfriend with you???? whats to say that if you eventually do have a relationship with this woman that she wont do exactly the same thing to you? once a cheater always a cheater... all it takes is for someone better then you to come along and sweep her off her feet and she's gone...
personally if i sleep with a woman and she has a bf she isnt classed as girlfriend material in my books...

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