The subject of this post may not be shockingly new to some, but after recently making it a point to integrate this theme into my game, the results have paid remarkable dividends.

A lot of PUAs post about nights when they were "on fire," meaning they felt great, their conversations were meaningful and funny, and they were the life of the party. I've been there, and let me tell you its a great feeling. Here's the question, though: how much of that feeling was YOUR inner game vs. reality? Were you really on fire that night, or did you just feel confident and as a result great things happened which fed "the fire" in an awesome cycle? I've come to realize much of being "on fire" is a result of your state at the time, so if that's the case then re-creating that state means you can be "on fire" whenever you want. Wouldn't that be great?

This got me to try to dissect that state of confidence and enthusiasm that comes with being "on fire." What I've found, for me, is that it all comes down to energy-levels. Have you ever tried showing up to a bar/club out of the blue and tried to game right off the bat? It can be tough, as you aren't really in a gaming state and you sort of just look around the place mindlessly and unable to think of any good openers, routines, etc.? Now, what happens when you've been hanging out with your buddies for a while, joking around and such, and getting in a great mood BEFORE hitting the bar or RIGHT WHEN YOU GET TO the bar? You feel great, you are already in a conversation mood, and all of the sudden you can open anyone. What's the difference? Energy.

When you hang out with friends and bust on each other for a while, your energy level and mood naturally goes up. You can take that heightened state and use it to open sets. I've found that often, subconsciously, the set realizes the state you're in and naturally wants to be a part of it, to feed off of it. After all, you are acting like the life of the party. HB's LOVE this state...often they'll open me if I'm in it. You've got the energy, and if you "out-energy" her, she will respond. Trust me.

Once I understood this, I wanted to take it further. You don't always have your friends there to get you revved up and add social proof. So I wanted to take this state and be able to flick it on and off like a light switch. It all comes down to energy. Once I examined what I did while in this state it became much easier to throw myself into it when any situation arises. For me, this is how I'm different when I'm "on fire." It may be different for you:

1) Be enthusiastic, and passionate. I'm naturally a happy person, and people tell me I have a good smile, so when I'm "on" I tend to smile a lot more and joke around a lot. Everyone is my close friend who I can bust on and have a good time with. Throw a few social rules out the window. If its a stranger I am speaking to, I speak to them like I've known them for years. If they want nothing to do with me, thats their problem, not mine as I have plenty more people to talk to.

2) Kino a LOT and everyone - This Kino is different then standard kino, as its purpose isn't necessarily to attract, its more to show alphaness. Slap a guy on the back or the shoulder to emphasize a point. Pull a girl close to you and tell her something in her ear. Do this a lot, do this soon, and do this to everyone, not just your target. If you can pull this off, you are the alpha of the group. Thats just how it works.

3) Neg playfully. Never placate and HB. Show you are in control. Give off the impression that you are in great mood and that she is completely unable to ruin it so she had better be a part of it. You aren't hitting on her, you are having a great time for yourself and she happens to be involved.

I'm getting to the point where I start to do this in my everyday life. People have responded very well. And this isn't a new idea. If you read the chapter in the game written by Juggler, he describes how before starting to game an HB, Style's eyes rolled back into his head and when they returned he was a different person. He flicked that switch.

-Esperanto

Great post, and so true. The energy level is definetly key.

Great post Esperanto.

NLP is a great tool for helping to put yourself into whatever state it is that you desire to be in and so is great for making you feel like you're "on fire" or just less anxious, or whatever it is you need in a situation to achieve the best results. I recommend checking out Introducing NLP, it goes over routines for anchoring specific "resources" such as confidence, or happiness to certain triggers, so that if you feel anxiety and you need some confidence, you just use your trigger, could be some phrase, or maybe a gesture and then bam, you feel full of confidence.

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I definitely agree with everything written here, but I'd like to add a little practical reminder of how to "turn on the switch" like was posted above. Lets say you aren't that pumped up for whatever reason and you are trying to get into the "on fire" attitude. It can be hard for a lot of guys to just turn on a switch. I agree NLP definitely can do the trick, but a lot of guys don't know about that either.

THE SOLUTION: What you need to do is just start a conversation with anyone. If you are new, I wouldn't pick a hot girl, it will take you 30 minutes to get the courage to talk to her. Instead, get into that bar, and don't take more than 5 steps before you start talking. Talk to a not-so-hot girl, or even a guy. Then add their friends into the convo. Then take someone nearby and try to get them into the convo. Or move on to the next group and talk to them. The key is less thinking and more DOING. Talk to five different sets of people (no matter how hot) and you'll now be ON FIRE! You are now the life of the party (bar). You can talk to anyone you fucking feel like!

NOW move onto hot girls and you will be on fire and they will sense it because women are so intuitive. PLUS, they probably will have seen you talking to one or more of the different groups you started off with. This increases your value!

So just remember that if you are trying to get into that "on fire" mindset, and you're having a hard time, the best way to do it is enter a bar and just get TALKING. Try it, it works!

Excellent addendum.