| Hi all.
Pretty new to the forums, but I have had on/off natural game for most of my dating life. Never gone out to actively get phone numbers, but it ends up happening and I end up hooking up on different levels.
Anyway, one thing that I've noticed since I've been paying attention to this PUA stuff is that you can present yourself in different ways that make you attractive on different levels, to different types of girls. The following tips are nothing new, but they are something that I don't think is all so grouped together. Without further ado...
1. Branch out. The greater the variation of skills that you have, the more kinds of people will find you interesting or attractive. You'll also broaden the kinds and depths of conversations you have with people, at the same time creating brand-new DHV's.
Examples: Read a short psychology book, then read another with a completely opposite standpoint. This is great for starting conversations with opinion openers--especially on psychology students. This is a DHV, an opener, and a full-on conversation you can take anywhere, all packed into one.
Try out music. Learn music theory in particular, so a girl who is a legitimate musician won't immediately write you off as a dime-a-dozen singer-songwriter type. Basic music theory is NOT that hard to learn. And hell, girls love a guy who plays guitar/piano. This gives you PERSONAL goals (never forget yourself) as well as several DHV's.
Sports--hell, just run. It makes you more attractive, gets you out of the house more often, helps you meet girls who are in shape, and improves your PERSONAL health.
If you like girls with tattoos, learn tattoo lore. Plenty of people with tattoos will have two main ones: the nautical stars and the two sparrows/swallows. These are traditional sailor tattoos that can mean just as much to non-sailors. Stars represent a person's path to home (which can mean either past, present, or future) and the sparrows represent unity (if you're interested, I'll write up the full story behind that one).
You'll quickly find that by bettering yourself, physically and mentally, you are also making yourself a more interesting and attractive person. Expand. (Personal note--the hardest thing about the whole expanding myself thing was not only learning to bear country music, but to even learn the lyrics to a few songs. I still kind of hate myself for it, but hey, I'm more well-rounded).
2. Presentation itself:
It's easy to figure out what the social dynamic in a group of HBs is before you even start talking to them. Body language, facial expressions, clothing styles, it's not that hard to figure them out. Based on that, with your new and expanded self, you can pick and choose which would be more attractive to the group in question.
Examples: Punk rock chicks with tattoos appreciate if you call their tattoos ART. Ask them where they got it done. Ask them what it means. On the other hand, if you stop to rest halfway through a run, find a spot people tend to rest. Ask the cute girl sweating her ass off which store she got her shoes from, they look comfortable. You may end up with an HB running buddy.
There are many ways to demonstrate the same quality in different presentations. For example: You're a cook in the Navy (not the most extravagant of jobs) actually gives you two options. Girl likes a guy who can cook? You're a cook. Girl likes a guy in the military? You're in the military. See what I'm getting at? Find different ways you can ALTER your qualities (DO NOT lie) to fit different people. You may even realize things that you COULD be good at or COULD even make you better at your own job.
3. Don't give everything away at once.
I have multiple tattoos, and I leak just a little of the meaning of one or two of them and leave it for a story for later--something they have to work for. One in particular is very strange and original, and girls often ask me what it is, and I smile and say "That one? That's a part of who I am." and then I steer the conversation elsewhere.
It's my only straight-up outline tattoo (the rest are colored and shaded), and it's a crying cartoon minotaur. It's a representation of how I feel sometimes--lost in a maze which was built just for me. Yes, a little emo, but it also represents that I am very independent (which, in all honesty, is one of my strongest qualities). All of that information? I give it to them after isolation, or I use it as an LMR destroyer. I go for the indie/rocker chicks, and so far, as an LMR, it's a 100% success rate.
This is just one example. I also am pretty fantastic at piano, so it's fun to do a D-Major arpeggio (after slamming down on the two lowest D's on the keyboard) all the way up a piano if I pass by one. This is a very rare circumstance (obviously) but the 2 chances I've had to do it have built MASSIVE intrigue. "Play for me/us!!", "Yeah, maybe later. Bar time, I'm thirsty!"
If you hear a conversation about something you know ALL about, don't freak out and become an encyclopedia who knows more than everyone else. Wait until the perfect moment where you can surprise the whole group by injecting your own surprise knowledge. It lets EVERYONE in the group realize that you've been judging the entire conversation--and now they all want to know what you think.
Hope some of you find these tips interesting or helpful. They're more of my natural game, and they're some of my musings on what I see other guys doing wrong.
Best,
BoDanker
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